Managing a Relationship with a Burnt Out Caretaker Partner

Communicate how you feel about them and take advantage of any small opportunity to show them you care. My partner also has to “burden” my challenges & struggles. Fights and frustration was becoming more and more frequent; communication less and less due to my RSD. I do my best to actively listen to their needs, and meet them as close as half-way when I can (physically & emotionally). It’s still not perfect, but it has reduced a lot of stress and fighting in our relationship. Also, as others’ have mentioned, utilize available resources as much as you can. One activity I have been working on is identifying my strengths and weaknesses. This has allowed us to grow through some things. Still, there are times when I feel like “damn, this is not what they signed up for”. But, so far, I continue to be amazed with them still being here. Love can be shown in many ways, big or small.

My moms my caretaker maybe you can try to let him have a hour a day or something to himself. So he can calm down and relax and it also gives you time to relax

The best thing I can suggest is praying for your caregiver and letting them know you appreciate them. No one wants to feel taken for granted. The more we feel appreciated, the more we want to do.

I have a young man whose will to take care of me and also marry me. I don't think its fair to tie him down by taken care of me. But I keep giving him the opportunity to find someone closer to his own age but he refuses.I do need the help so much. I would very relying on him so much. Are you and your partner married? I wonder if that makes a difference....👍

Caregiver burnout is definitely a thing. I would make it a point to carve out some time for him to do whatever he'd like each week. That way, he can be focusing on himself too. Unfortunately, incredibly selfless partners require extra care, because they won't really take care of themselves. My husband got to a point where he almost left because of how bad I was burning him out. That's when I realized what I was doing to him, and immediately got help. (Not saying that's your case, just illustrating how I relate).

I take my youngest in the room with me to watch read and watch a show before bedtime to get my SO some time to unwind.