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Quinniffer

263d

I find it really hard to talk to my partner when I feel down. he's so supportive and sweet and accepting of my illnesses and is always there to help but I always feel like a burden to him. Just another problem he has to take care of. Does anyone else feel like this and how do I fix it?

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    • insectenjoyer

      112d

      I feel like a burden to my very supportive husband due to my mental illnesses constantly. I try to remind myself to be "thankful" rather than "sorry." It's more helpful for both of us when I'm grateful rather than shameful, but it's still hard sometimes.

    • insectenjoyer

      112d

      I feel like a burden to my very supportive husband due to my mental illnesses constantly. I try to remind myself to be "thankful" rather than "sorry." It's more helpful for both of us when I'm grateful rather than shameful, but it's still hard sometimes.

    • Possum8910

      112d

      Honestly I feel this way every day. But like you I have an absolutely wonderful, understanding partner. For me personally, I think it stems from others making me feel like I was a burden for the simplest things so it's strange to me even after 9yrs. It helped when I sat down and talk to him about it and we've been finding ways for me to make sure I'm not overwhelming them (helps me with the guilt) and they are more vocal about when they do get overwhelmed. I've also found communities like this app help very much as well because my partner and I can still communicate and they can be supportive but I also get support here when they aren't able to truely understand what I'm dealing with and I'm not putting all of it on him. 🫂

    • cheeseandfruit

      262d

      My boyfriend has straight up told me that my depression was ruining our relationship because of how much I talk about it to him. He also has depression, and he feels bad that he can't "help" me, but the truth is that he has helped me... I've found that showing appreciation every once in a while and playing games together/doing bonding activities that don't involve interacting with your illness can help.

      • Possum8910

        112d

        @cheeseandfruit this definitely helps, my partner and I have taken this approach as well and it really helps. Especially being sure to do things that show appreciation when we can.

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Yes, many people with chronic illnesses feel like a burden to their partners. One way to address this is by having open and honest communication with your partner about your feelings and concerns. It's important to remember that you deserve love and support, and your partner chooses to be there for you because they care about you.

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