Struggling with Trust Issues and Anger Management

I've gone through this exact thing. A reoccurring cycle my whole life. Ive found ways to help it. I ask myself consistantly, is this really who i want to be? Ill be angry, mid convo with someone, crying and confused, and then ill hear myself ask, is this how i really want to be right now? Maybe it is a person that should be kept farther away, but severing relationships on an intense emotion can hurt so much more. Try to see the cycle as it happens, and break it. Dont be afraid to ask for a moment of silence to reset. Be aware of how your heart rate is and your breathing. I've been used this for a few years now, ive improved immensely and my relationships have as well. Thats what has helped me, i hope maybe it can be some insight.