Should I Reconnect with My Addict Father?

I don't know the details of your situation, but I gave my alcoholic father chance, after chance, after chance and allowed him to impact my life, and most importantly, the way I viewed myself. When I was 20, I was finally done. I said goodbye and went no contact. It is the smartest, most loving thing I have ever done for myself. It was what gave me a chance at healing and wholeness. The only person you owe anything to is yourself.

If he's not very clearly truthful in being committed to change, then no. He would be trying to manipulate yet again. It will put you through a lot of unnecessary pain to try to patch things up with him, so he better guarantee it damn will be worth it. You don't owe him anything. You have boundaries he can not cross, and he will have to be putting in a lot more work than you. People with that past are hardly ever going to want to do that. The only reason I'd ever do it in my own, similar situation is if that was all guaranteed and because I'd feel the tiniest obligation in my conscience to be selfless and give the low-life a chance at a better life because I'd probably be the only one he's ever known that would make him really change. It might be that all he wants are some "good memories with you 🥺" when he just wants a burger, some cash, some attention, some "forgiveness" (you to act like you don't have a problem with his current or past behavior so he doesn't feel a lil guilt). I hope he doesn't hurt you again. And you're a saint to even have a thought of taking mercy on him, but as you probably know, very unlikely it would work out in a healthy way that requires him to make sacrifices, commitments, and attonements.

My personal opinion after giving up on my parents.. nope I'm so much happier and stable since I gave up on them five or so years ago My father would call to harass me at any time day or night My mother frequently crashed my home bringing drama and just a lot of bad mojo I'm soooooooo much happier, healthier etc now Namaste 🙏🏻 ✌🏻💕☺️

my father is also a horrible person yet i still want a relationship with him. i understand that want, but you need to come first. you need to set boundaries and as much as you want love him, resist putting on those rose-tinted glasses