Cutting Ties with a Toxic Parent

I’m so sorry about your situation with your dad :( I’ve had zero contact with my dad since I was 13 after I reported him for SA. What he did to me screwed up me and the rest of our family so bad, I’d be totally happy to never see him again for the rest of my life. I want a family friend to walk me down the aisle at my wedding instead of him. If he’s hurt you beyond reconciliation and you’re sure you don’t want a relationship with him, I think going no contact could help. Dads suck lol

My father is out of my life. It's great! I am really sorry yours has tainted such a big part of your life. Mine did too. I am 35, married, baby... He has no clue. Quite honestly, my biggest worry about this is when my kids will ask why do they have 2 grannies and only 1 granpie. But my life is a million times better without him, and I honestly wish he had been out of my life sooner.

I am no contact with my parents. I am almost 37 and talking to them/being around them always upsets me and makes me anxious so, I just don't. You do not have to pick up the phone when he calls, that's the first step. See how that makes you feel. I guarantee it will be so freeing when you realize your father has no right to your adult life. Good luck. It's hard. I've been reading a lot on toxic relationships and it's really helped me to see that I deserve better. You do, too.

I have but with my sister

The same behaviors that stole/neglected parts of your childhood will continue to steal from/neglect you in your adulthood - except now you can choose go buy a scooter and ride it to 7/11 in just a towel. You’ll still disappoint your dad, but you won’t be able to hear him talk about it because you’ll average like 20 mph on your scooter and all he’s running is his mouth. Distance can heal wounds as well - I never thought my mom and I would want to call on weekends or spend holidays together. It’s impossible to heal from wounds that are still actively occurring.

I am having to cut ties with my brother at the moment and I have done so much for him. He has lived with us for 4 years now and I gave him two options to either get help or move out. He has a job now and honestly he wouldn't have it if it wasn't for me getting him the help he needed to be able to. He is an amputee and I got him on medicaid to get him going to see the doctor. In which the doctor gave him a referral for a prosthetic leg. I have supported him and helped him so much since he lost his leg. He decided to repay me by doing a drug deal right in front of my daughter and me. I am angry, hurt and I feel so betrayed! What I am trying to say is sometimes we have to cut out the people that hurt us or people we care about the most. It sucks really does! But in order to keep yourself protected sometimes that is what we have to do. You have to protect your mental health and your physical health. That is important! Hopefully one day they will wake up realize what they have done.

I have a sister and four daughters. At one. Time or another someone has not been talking to someone. Over time feelings change circumstances change it all turns to history. And you look back and say, "I can't believe we wasted so much time being mad at each other for something that didn't matter now.". Just. Don't waste time you'll regret

I've gone no contact recently with my mom and her side of the family. My best advice is to give as much leverage to your family as you would a close friend. And idk about you, but him doing even half of these things would make him a pretty shit friend. I wish you luck and I'm genuinely so sorry that he treats you like this. You deserve better.

My mom was able to go low contact with her mom. It may feel bad at first and the person usually tries to guilt you with something like “I don’t have that many years left” “what about x person” etc etc but it’s easier if you go in thinking that they may try and guilt like that