Toxic Parental Relationships and Psychological Problems

Why are you putting your parents first. Put YOURSELF first and learn what you want. God created you as an individual. You have to realize you have a real purpose on this Earth other than being your parents’ child. Find out what that purpose is and ask God to help you fulfill it. Love yourself because God loved you enough to create you!

It's been 2 years since I cut off my father. No regrets. He used to make me feel worthless to the point where I truly believed that I need to erase my personality and build a new one from scratch. He is a very gifted manipulator and can hypnotize you into believing his lies by spending hours and hours talking his bs. I have never met a more toxic person in my life. He will bring you down the second you feel like yourself, he will make you feel embarrassed for sharing your happiness, anything you do is always wrong. And the worst part, he will make everyone who gets into his net believe that he's right and you are the bad guy. Every person who stopped communicating with him realized what happened. His ex wives and friends hate him, his relatives hate him, all 3 of his children hate him.

I know this all too well. Sometimes as hard as it is cutting ties help a lot

I have horrible relationships with both if my parents. I'm closer to my step dad than I am either of my biological parents. But, theres a good reason for this. My bio father punched my mom in her belly while she was pregnant with me, most likely causing all of the medical problems I still deal with today. I dont talk to him or his side of the family. My mom was a good mom when I was a little kid, but as I got older, she changed. Turns out shes schizophrenic. Refuses help. My state makes it pretty impossible for me to get guardianship of her because she is currently homeless, so no real address. I had a mental health warrant on her. They took her for a 72 hour psych hold, ended up keeping her for a week and then they LET HER GO! Needless to say I was very upset that all my hard work and the emotional trauma and hardship i went through to have that done was completely wasted.

I also feel like I don’t have a very good relationship with my parents,, my mother was rly never their for me emotionally after I turned 13, and my father hasn’t been in my life for over 7 years. However, he started messaging me on fb and we talked for a while, but he recently told me that he couldn’t talk to me anymore, and he completely cut me off :(

Hey, we don't pick our parents. Some are really ready for children but Love happens. We are a product of a Love action. It's not our fault of what happens once we get home from the hospital. We learn about toxic relationships. Eat the meat and throw the bones away. We are hear for you..