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Not Inviting My Dad to My Wedding

Sugarebee

706d

If I get married I don’t want my dad there. It’s hard bc my parents are close and I’m half certain if my dad doesn’t get to go, my mom won’t. I feel like I’m selfish for not wanting a relationship with him. I feel selfish for existing. I only would allow him to attend if he gave up alcohol for good, and I don’t see that happening. I told him one time when he was drunk and we were fighting and he said he didn’t wanna go, but I meant it and he didn’t.

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    • RainbowPearl

      705d

      @jwpta1 no one has an obligation to help another at the expense of their own well being. Setting boundaries is important. If she sets that boundary it needs to be respected. This is stuff you learn very early in therapy.

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    • cjness

      706d

      That sucks.

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    • jwpta1

      706d

      Stop being so selfish... Yes, it's your "day" but maybe your father's problem is not yours. Maybe you should consider helping him out with love vs condemnation. It might be real in the long run.

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      • RainbowPearl

        705d

        @jwpta1 no one has an obligation to help another at the expense of their own well being. Setting boundaries is important. If she sets that boundary it needs to be respected. This is stuff you learn very early in therapy.

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      • Sugarebee

        706d

        @jwpta1 I understand where you’re coming from, thank you for your input.

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    • RainbowPearl

      706d

      I completely understand and I don't think you should feel guilty about your decision. I invited my mom but not my step father. They respected my wishes. Your wedding day needs to be as uncomplicated and as happy as it can be for you and your partner.

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      • Sugarebee

        706d

        @RainbowPearl thank you

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    • Christie86

      706d

      Am sorry to hear that. But I understand where u coming from as well

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      • Sugarebee

        706d

        @Christie86 thank you

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