Dealing with Resentment Towards My Mother

thank you all for the kind words

So sorry to hear that, it takes a while to let go of things you've been dealing with for a long time. My therapist gave me advice about being your own big brother/sister, but I would say to try and find a therapist to help you confront the emotions and work through it.

So I have the same thing with both my parents and I'm still living with them. I wish I could tell you it gets easier but it doesn't. I found that disconnecting from them and focusing on my friends and my self really helped

I also have a difficult relationship with my mom; I was constantly compared to my older sister and never felt good enough. As i’ve gotten older I’ve just stopped engaging with her, and most of my family, as much. I just do the bare minimum of what’s needed of me. If boundaries start getting crossed on how i’m getting treated I stop responding or don’t answer a phone call, or say I’m too busy to come visit. It’s not always easy but it’s been a lot less stressful to be less engaged than try to be emotionally responsible for them.