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321d

Do you introduce yourself as autistic? I went to a dinner with my family and the people we had dinner with seemed very nice but my parents were upset with me for exhibiting autistic behavior’s (stimming, talking out of turn, not finishing my food) because it was impolite. I am an adult and was doing my best to be polite but I still needed to regulate myself. Sometimes I wonder if it would make it easier to just let people know I’m autistic before they have a chance to judge.

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    • Ash.G

      55d

      I also stim and don't finish my food. Fortunately my family understand that I can't always control my stimming and echolalia where I repeat what other people say. As for as finishing food, they know that I have disordered eating and IBS so they expect me to know my limits. I usually ask for a to go box. My family is also fine with me getting a children's colouring page to keep occupied so I don't talk out of turn. I also bring my tablet and headphones.

    • Ash.G

      55d

      I also stim and don't finish my food. Fortunately my family understand that I can't always control my stimming and echolalia where I repeat what other people say. As for as finishing food, they know that I have disordered eating and IBS so they expect me to know my limits. I usually ask for a to go box. My family is also fine with me getting a children's colouring page to keep occupied so I don't talk out of turn. I also bring my tablet and headphones.

    • Sunshineseeker90

      316d

      Did they reprimand you during dinner or after dinner? Were they reminding you of etiquette or were they upset?

    • Sunshineseeker90

      316d

      You are not the problem. Your parents are lame, I'm sure the family you went to dinner with was fine with whatever you needed to do to feel comfortable.

    • welpe

      321d

      This is a tough decision to make, and very personal. In my experience many people 'understand' the social difficulty side of it, like in conversation, but fail to understand the full complexity and multidimensionality to it. Ultimately when disclosing it, you also need to be ready to become the educator of what it means and how it affects you more broadly. And when you do throw it because of lack of complete understanding people still do judge you... What took me a while to learn is the language of experience... It broadens the chance that people across diagnoses and such can relate to your struggles, cause many of the challenges many conditions (and even people without/undiagnosed could relate as well). It might look something like "I struggle with____" it could contine with for me it looks something like x, y, or z

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The responses to this question vary among individuals. Some people casually mention their autism after some time, while others may not disclose it at all. The reactions also differ, with some people becoming more understanding and kinder, while others may not believe the person or make ignorant comments. It's a personal decision based on one's comfort level and the situation.

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