EliteLexy

245d

Newly diagnosed this past summer at 40. Has anyone else had to deal with heavy ignorance from family and friends? For example, a friend of mine at first rejected my diagnosis and then later explained, "well you are pretty with it and have raised your kids so well for being someone on the spectrum, I have never seen you abuse your kids or neglect them, so it just didn't make sense." It's still killing me a bit as both of my kids were just diagnosed. How do we deal with these friends and family members? I have no energy left for these ones😮‍💨

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)

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    • Vyp3rG0d

      244d

      I find it best to brush it off or if they are open to it direct them to avenues to educate themselves... But don't let it get to you ... Knowing you have it isn't about people's acceptance and pandering to us in any non specific way more so than it is to know personally how to navigate through life as comfortable as possible within ourselves ... So to speak ... I hope I elaborated that well

    • ForgetfulFerret

      245d

      Hi there, I made it till almost 30 before I got my diagnosis for ASD. When I shared it with my family they were all shocked. Took them a bit to accept it. They still don’t know a lot about it or anything, they just know that I’m autistic and that’s that now. It is rough. I’m not sure if I have a solution but I figured I’d pop in to let you know that you’re not alone in this and that others struggle with it as well. It’s not that anything is wrong with us it’s just our brains don’t work the same as “neurotypical” people’s do.

      • EliteLexy

        245d

        @ForgetfulFerret right and I assume it is not our job to educate people, especially if we do not know if that information is even wanted, but I just cannot decide what to do with the ignorant comments that are not only hurtful to me, but our community. Do I address them or let it go and try to live my best life a bit hermity?

        • Vyp3rG0d

          244d

          @EliteLexy from my perspective I feel it's too close to home for "us" to educate on it in those situations unless we can offer ready to go pieces of info or direct links we will over explain and hyperfixate it to the grave so to speak

      • EliteLexy

        245d

        @ForgetfulFerret also, it's warrants saying, I am sorry that your family does not understand or want to seek out that information. I understand some of that feeling as well but I cannot imagine it being my entire family. Hugs, sister

    • MeeB333

      244d

      Ignorance is simply a lack of knowledge, and the only cure for ignorance is knowledge. You are not alone. Forgive others for not knowing what they have never been taught. You have an opportunity to enlighten them and others by sharing your story, wisdom, struggles, and journey. Never apologize for who you are, & know that being neurodivergent is actually a superpower. We see things way beyond what most neurotypicals will ever comprehend, so stand up for yourself and others like us, by being proud of all of your quirks & differences, as they are an integral part of what makes you so very “special” & uniquely YOU. Educate yourself, so that you will be armed with the facts to combat their ignorance. I know it can be exhausting, but helping others to understand the facts will have a ripple effect, & you will doing them all, as well as yourself & your children, a monumental service to make sure that people have a better understanding of conditions like ours. Knowledge is power. Empower yourself, & you will be setting a great example for your kids to follow, too! Good Luck!! 🍀💜💚

    • Vyp3rG0d

      244d

      I find it best to brush it off or if they are open to it direct them to avenues to educate themselves... But don't let it get to you ... Knowing you have it isn't about people's acceptance and pandering to us in any non specific way more so than it is to know personally how to navigate through life as comfortable as possible within ourselves ... So to speak ... I hope I elaborated that well

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