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Feeling Guilty for Being Sick

historychick

719d

do you ever feel kind of guilty for being so sick? i do. a lot. Like, i love my boyfriend so much and he loves me, all of me. but i can’t help but feel guilty that he’s going to have to deal with me being sick for the rest of my life. i’m on so many medications for so many different things, and my symptoms can be so severe sometimes. it makes me feel like i’m going to drag him down

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    • SoloKirby

      709d

      @Snowy yeah I have a habit of declining invitations to especially physical activities when I’m worried that I’ll have to be accommodated for

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    • Zoey_Val

      719d

      I feel this same way especially when I look perfectly fine and feel like I’m dying on the inside I am not taken seriously and feel like more of a burden because there’s this part of me that thinks that I look fine and I should be fine but I am very obviously having health issues. :( I haven’t totally had an episode severe enough in front of my SO that they would really fully believe me if that makes sense. Even with a diagnosis. My parents did not take me seriously until I had a severe episode in front of my dad and he freaked out and finally takes me seriously. I feel like it shouldnt have to be bad enough for people to believe me and care for me. Sorry for the rant! We are NOT burdens on anyone but it is important to remember to be grateful to have that kind of support in our lives. ❤️

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    • SoloKirby

      719d

      My ex broke up with me a week after I got diagnosed with epilepsy. I thought no one would ever love me again after he left. But now I’ve found a guy who is much more caring about it. He still gets worried when I have a big seizure, but I had a small on on our first date and with the way he handled it I knew he was a keeper. My heart rate also gets high easily and I do feel bad when I get invited to go hiking or something that I’m not capable of doing. I don’t want them to change plans just on account of me.

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      • Snowy

        719d

        @SoloKirby I know that feeling. I have sensitivities to sounds, touch/space around me, and what I guess I'll call genrally "chaos" and my bf loves loud, chaotic things - concerts, Jeeping/off-roading, going to bars and clubs, etc. Most of the time, he's pretty good about it. He's very aware of my needs and what to say and not to say. Every once in a while things pop up tho. The other day, he went out with his aunt, uncle, and family friends and forgot to invite me. After he told me he forgot to invite me, he followed it up with "but it was really loud so it wouldn't have been good for you anyway" It just sucks being the one everyone has to accommodate...

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        • SoloKirby

          709d

          @Snowy yeah I have a habit of declining invitations to especially physical activities when I’m worried that I’ll have to be accommodated for

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    • uno

      719d

      I do but for the reason that 98% of my conditions were caused by smoking. Did it to myself😓

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      • Eddyy

        719d

        @uno I get that, a lot of my conditions have either gotten worse or started because of my ED. It sucks because instead of feeling guilty for harming myself, instead I feel guilty for being a burden on someone else.

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    • Eddyy

      719d

      YES, 100%. I was on call with my significant other a couple of days ago and began aggressively vomiting for hours on end. They always have to take care of me, and it makes me feel so guilty. I hate being the kind of person that has to constantly be taken care of. However, it is nice knowing that I’m genuinely cared about. It means the world when you find a person who will actually stay, even when you’re not in the best conditions.

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      • historychick

        719d

        @Eddyy this is true. on my worst days, when i’m non-verbal and crying all day he always tries his best to help me. we’re ldr right now, which makes it hard but sometimes he knows i just need to be a burrito and watch cartoons while we facetime. it’s hard not feeling guilty, but especially from my experience i know if he didn’t want to he wouldn’t be doing all of this

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        • Eddyy

          719d

          @historychick I’m preparing to be ldr, and it’s just so comforting to know how they genuinely do care about me. I wish I could repay them for how much they do for me.

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