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Struggling with Emotional Connections

Jpenn552

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I've always felt this weird "i wanna be hugged/don't touch me" argument within me and have trouble in relating with others. I was told by my last "partner" 😶 that I don't know what love is. I also can't read emotions well. I hope this doesn't mean I'm weird.

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    • Jpenn552

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      @MatchaBunn yeah. I have to have at least several inches of space between me and the person next to me 90% of the time. I have to be really comfortable with a person for them to be any closer or I'll sit somewhere else. Anybody else have seriously sensitive hearing? It's been a long time problem. 😕

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    • MatchaBunn

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      I relate to this! For some reason, when I’m feeling real stinky mentally, I think I have an initial thought of “I want to just be held”, but it immediately switches to “don’t touch me or look at me or perceive me”. I think some of it is just learned from my emotionally stunted childhood, but I also am just not a person who leans into physical touch all the time to show support. Sometimes it’s just too much sensory overwhelm to be that close to a person. Sometimes it’s exactly what I need.

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      • Jpenn552

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        @MatchaBunn yeah. I have to have at least several inches of space between me and the person next to me 90% of the time. I have to be really comfortable with a person for them to be any closer or I'll sit somewhere else. Anybody else have seriously sensitive hearing? It's been a long time problem. 😕

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      • Momx3

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        @MatchaBunn My husband is the same way! I have just accepted that is the way he is and not taken it personally. It’s just not his ‘love language’ and you can’t make someone comfortable with it. He is just as happy with us being in the same room doing different things which is fine with me because I’m not a needy person so it all works out for us.

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    • HowPow

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      You sound just like me 😂 I don't understand the need for touch; I don't like it. Yet there's nothing better than my husband holding me. For about 5 seconds... it's a struggle. I, too, really have to make an effort for the sake of my relationship.

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      • Jpenn552

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        @HowPow yup. My son doesn't like being touched for more than a brief hug either most of the time. Two awkward peas in a pod. 😅

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    • dream6284

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      I love to cuddle but hate being touched most of the time. It's difficult, but sometimes I push past the uncomfortable feelings of being touched to cuddle and show my partner love

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      • Jpenn552

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        @dream6284 yeah, I wish I was okay with things, but it's too late. My messy engagement was over a year ago 🤷‍♀️

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        • dream6284

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          @Jpenn552 I'm lucky to have a partner that understands what I go thru so he's pretty ok with me not wanting physical attention

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