Dealing with Relationship Insecurities

I went to one CODA meeting and it really helped! But I need to bring myself to attend another one… 😅 I know I have a hard time because people diagnosed with BPD are seen as “monsters” by a lot of society… I am so insecure about turning into that… I try to bottle up any bad feelings like jealousy, but inevitably it will come out eventually…. I might be projecting onto my BPD diagnosis and others… but I find I have the most INTENSE relationships. People quickly like me because I am so good at being a chameleon and being “compatible” with them. After long enough I can’t keep it up. The true me comes out and we are both incompatible. But I’m codependent and my intense affection has made them codependent. Then we are trapped 😕

dude i know it's not advice but i just don't cope with it. I'm trying to work through it now. im newly sober and because of AA i found that there's Codependent's Anonymous. I'm going to a meeting tonight, maybe it's worth trying for you too

Honestly I don't have any advice for this one 😥 I struggle with the same kind of feeling and my ex broke up with me over this, turns out he did hate me for things out of my control. My only advice would be to communicate with them, tell them your feelings, you shouldn't bottle it up.