Dealing with a Traumatized Father

Have you talked to him about going to therapy or counseling? I know it's an extremely difficult topic to go through with parents (speaking from experience), but therapy really makes such a huge difference. I think the hardest part for someone suffering like this is taking responsibility for their actions. Not in the "it's my fault" way, but in the "I own that these choices were mine and they had consequences, and I'm ready to deal with them." As a human being it's terrifying to do that; but it's also the only way to really be free from it. And especially having a loving and compassionate child like you, he doesn't have to feel alone while he goes through it. That being said, I hope you are also taking care of yourself and getting whatever support you need as well. It is such a painful balance trying to support a loved one while your heart is breaking at the same time, so whatever resources you can draw from (therapy, youtube psych videos, free online worksheets, etc), please use them as much as you can and take care of yourself as well. I wish you so much love and healing to you and your dad!