Struggling with BPD in my Relationship

What are you getting mad at those are triggers tried to find out what the triggers are that are making you mad let your BF know talk about it learn about your disorder both of you need to learn about it because it affects you both

i experience something similar. it’s really easy to get frustrated even over small things. i feel like im self sabotaging myself unintentionally because even when i love people, i slowly start to be a mess around them

I don’t really have advice but the same things happen with me and my gf. I get so worked up and volatile and I start cussing and just being horrible and then eventually after I’ll crash and feel horrible

i feel you— this is something i struggle with as well and from what you describe, your bf sounds like a very supportive person and im sorry you have to deal with this debilitating disorder and sorry for this long response, but here are some tips i dug for in my brain lol— so i suggest, even if you already have, explain to him what you feel you're going through and perhaps explain what you think triggers an outburst— remember communication is key! and report anything new so he's on the same page :) and from there you two can make a plan together to figure out how to prevent or calm down these episodes while you slowly reprogram your brain to have less episodes in time me and my guy work together to calm this issue by 1st me explaining, and then us both coming up with compromises for each of us when an episode might be triggered for example, he checks in with me a lot to make sure i dont feel abandoned, or when he has to go somewhere he assures me many times in a kind way that he'll be back :) so you can learn to have comfort and time to work on your brain and he can have comfort of understanding you more and the fact you do care for him, but your systems are just wack right now y'know? also when you feel an episode start to happen; even if it's hard, in order to reprogram this pattern, you have to try hard to think as logically as possible about yourself in the moment; pretend your are specating yourself; distract long enough to calm down from the spike a little it's hard at first, but holding back for a second is the best— and find out what works to distract you; it may not work the first time, but keep trying and you'll get it! then when you feel more calm, you can talk to him about what you were upset about with a more clear mind :)