Struggling with BPD and Agoraphobia: Need Help with Anxiety Medication

I struggle with my BPD all the time but lately it’s been so draining. I have become agoraphobic due to rea trauma that has occurred, huge amounts of social anxiety that has come with it, and terrible unfounded paranoia. I can’t seem to get myself out of the house to do things that would make me feel better like going for a walk or eating at a restaurant. I feel paralyzed by terror all the time and I’m exhausted. I want to make progress but when I leave my home (and sometimes even in my home) I experience such intense anxiety. Like I feel certain something truly awful will happen to me and/or to my wonderful husband. I don’t really want to go on an anxiety med because I’ve tried many of them before and they tend to make me sleepy and do nothing else. Maybe an antipsychotic? I also don’t want to take anything that will shift me into mania. I’m so tired and need some relief so I can get to going outside and doing things that will make me feel less depressed. Any medications I should know of that may help with anxiety and paranoia? Anything I should mention to my doctor? I’m currently taking no medications (except like multivitamin, vitamin d and allergy meds occasionally). Love to anyone experiencing this or anything BPD related. I love y’all and I’m proud of us for trying to improve 💕