Feeling Trapped: Dealing with Family Expectations

I am so very sorry you're being treated this way. I have been a people pleaser all my life (56). I am learning this past year, the true meaning of "you cannot pour from an empty cup". My body has retaliated all the years I put others before me at my own expense. I know first hand how others just don't care. I'm in pain. A flare. Whatever. They just want more. I had to realize this is something I allow. So this is something I am learning to not allow. Making myself a priority is a complete new way of thinking for me but something I have to do. A meme I love, "It's not that people don't recognize your value. It's that people recognize that you don't recognize your value & they try to catch your vibe at a discount."

I am so sorry you have to deal with this. Everyone deserves a safe and loving home and the fact you do not seem to have that hurts my heart. The next step will differ depending on your age, finances, etc. But I honestly would suggest finding a way to leave the family home and either bunk elsewhere or rent out your own studio apartment. See if the relationships improve once you’re out and within in your own space. If they do not and these people still continue to make you feel this way- cut them off and go no contact. Being family doesn’t give someone the right to harm and disrespect you to the point you feel like a shell of the former person you once were. I understand it’s probably scary to think about the reactions they may have if you were to go no contact, but this will either scare them into realising they could lose you entirely, or it’ll show their true colours. You DO NOT need to keep individuals around whom serve you no positive purpose. Family or not.