Surviving Emotional Abuse: Need Advice

Oof, being stuck in a situation that makes your anxiety worse is horrible. Just because they are family does not mean you owe them anything. Is you owing them your life something that was drilled into you head by others? Or do u really feel like you owe them? I have never heard this over a forced I love you and am genuinely curious. Boundaries! Set Boundaries, you do even need to respond to their bad behavior. Especially if the are being abusive with what they are saying or doing. You are not waisting your life, you were not delt the same cards as others who "have their life together " or given the tools they were to move through life at the pace they are. You are right where you need to be for you. Of course advice with a grain of salt, as you don't know how they will respond to such things. You are important, and you need to be important to you. One day at a time.🤗

Yes they did sacifice for you, but that was their job as a parent to do, to say so is narcissistic behavior. Know it is not selfish to take care of yourself. Just know that their response to you is from their trauma and how they were taught. Boundaries are not easy. And needs to be reinforced. To set Boundaries you have to basically stand up for yourself. Or maybe you stop doing something or perhaps say something anymore. I personally have a hard time not talking to not respond is hard for me. So If someone is being a jerk I stop talking. Or an example I saw on a video was not being the driver for a free loader friend. I really wish you the best of luck, standing up for yourself is not easy. Wish I was there to high five you when you do though. I also recommend tictok, I learned a lot about all this from there, I didn't know anything about this stuff before I got on tictok. I just like being on here and knowing I am not the only one, it makes me feel not so different.