Why Can't Guys Just Be Friends?

@DariaFae it's true. I'm 49. I've been in failed relationships. And as said above, had many to walk away because I didn't give them what they wanted. Then, I even had a fling once. Figured, if guys could do it. Why couldn't I. Lol it still made the guy mad because I told him upfront. What I wanted, how I expected the situationship to be lol I told him the 1st mention of staying over, moving in, the *L* word... that was it. I literally just wanted a companion. Someone to be intimate with that I trusted. Someone to go to dinner with, watch a movie with, laugh & have real conversations with. He was cool then within 7 months. He's telling me he would like to be a couple. That, was it for me. So he still got mad and walked away with the freedom most guys want in a situationship lol 😆 that's what I call them But then, I went back to just strictly dating. I too, grew up with mostly guys. I had 3 girls as friends from my childhood and even today. I have 1 girl that I have lunch with. I guess I learned a lot of their tactics due to hanging out. You learn to think like a guy. What to look for. I always preferred to chill with guys because they didn't act self-righteous, jealous, and didn't try to start drama or cause trouble. Usually, what you saw was what you got. I noticed how guys characters started changing in the late 90s. They were less *manly*. Acted feminine, come off as soft and offended. Many, feel women should be equal to them. That was a huge no for me. I didn't like arrogance, I appreciated confidence. I don't deal with whiney men either. I'm not saying a man can't be sensitive or show emotions. But men, that are whiney...just because they aren't getting what they want, make me laugh. One thing I've always told a man. If your momma couldn't raise you, I damn sure can't. Yep, made quite a few mad with that one lol but anyway something I realized. We tend to gravitate towards the same people, places and things. Because even if it's someone different. They're the same character or personality. I decided to go onto the less taken path. Go places I didn't usually go. Rather than date just men my age. See what 3 to 4 years younger or 3 to 5 years older would be like. Rather than go to a bar. Go to a country club or a nicer, upscale nightclub. I don't particularly like bars tho. Guys can pick & choose who sees them at those but...country clubs are where many women also go so less chance of meeting a wanna be pimp or playa there lol Seriously 😆 I decided instead of guys the way I was use to seeing them dressed, look at others. Find interesting topics for conversations. As bad as it sounds. Politics, stock market, world issues, are good topics. You'll find a lot out, and it helps to know what people's thoughts are on different topics too. Talking about certain foods, local restaurants, or traveling. Where have they been, where do they want to go in the next cpl of years. There are so many topics you can cover to uncover certain things about someone. Don't rush sweetie. Believe in yourself. Start moving out of your comfort zone. At least that's one thing that helped me. I stopped messing with the same ole, same ole. And like I said. I've got the best husband I could have ever ask for. You'll be found, trust Father Time. ❤️

@NativeGypsy So true...