Struggling with Social Interaction

(and as for the second half of your response, I truly hope you continue to learn. but again, you don’t know as much about others as you think. it’s simply judgement. problem solving includes talking, but if you notice a pattern that somebody isn’t healing, then step away. but don’t refuse EVERYBODY the things you said you’re “more than happy” to offer just because of that off chance.)

my point was general. problems can be caused by anything, not just the person themselves. you didn’t specify that in your post. seriously though, just be kinder. yes, hold people accountable, but, also hold YOURSELF accountable. in this situation, it’s how you talk about others. messed up. just simply say, “I can’t help you and I’m not comfortable with it, maybe find another friend who can?” or something similar. being mean and judging others gets us nowhere. just distance yourself and always hope for the best. you got my point, you just didn’t like it. you’re not kind and it seems you don’t want to be. anyways, best of luck to you.

I think this whole post was neutral besides the time-consuming garbage part. I don’t think there is a right answer. But there is an answer for you, and you have to decide whether you want to work to accept others emotions and the ways they deal with them (in reality, most of the population has no way whatsoever how to), or be comfortable in your solitude. I kind of have the same dilemma. For example, in terms of Buddhism, you could be a monk in the mountains, living in your own solitude of self-mastery and peace without dealing with the roller coaster emotions of other people. Or you could choose to live in society and try to help other people with their emotions, but still take time to honor yourself in solitude. There’s nothing wrong with being alone, though, if that’s what makes you happy. Just know if it’s true happiness, since biologically humans are hardwired for connection. But if the connection to yourself is enough, then it is. There is no “true” answer.

You're right, I don't respect their problems and emotions, at least usually. Mainly it's because they are the normally cause of them, but they lack the capacity to accept responsibility for their own actions. Be kinder? You mean enable bad decision-making? How about nah. I would be more than happy to help them, listen to them, and be supportive in solving their problems. However, and I'm learning this, most people don't actually want to solve their own problems -- they just want the emotional release of being able to blame it on someone else or the world itself.

it really just sounds like you’re a bad friend. there are kinder ways to express this and better ways to word it. if you were a true friend, you’d respect their problems and emotions while respecting your own by not being able to help or handle those things. but no, you spent this entire post insulting people for being human and then asked for the “right answer” ?? well, here it is; be kinder. we all deserve understanding and compassion.