Struggling with Multiple Instances of Rape, Need Support

Rape is rape. You do not need to make any excuses or justify anything to anyone else. Don’t let anyone make you question yourself or what you know you experienced. Have U heard of the term “rape by coercion”? I have gone through this(basically tricked & lied to & forced upon without physical violence) & multiple other sexual assaults by a number of perpetrators. Once you’ve been raped or sexually assaulted once, unfortunately, the likelihood it will happen again actually goes up!! And, it absolutely does not matter how intelligent you are, or what social class you come from, and/or any other factor! It can happen to literally anyone, at anytime, anywhere!!! Also, attacks committed by random strangers are far more statistically rare than assaults by people we know & trust, such as family members, partners, neighbors, & friends/acquaintances. So, anybody who presumptuously tries to victim-blame or shame anyone who has been raped/assaulted has zero knowledge and understanding of what they’re talking about, or how ignorant & damaging their unnecessary judgments & comments can truly be to those who have endured such traumas. All we can do is arm ourselves with knowledge & skills to hopefully be prepared & prevent any potential future harm being done to us, but there are no guarantees; regardless of how safe and responsible, knowledgeable & prepared anyone may be… It takes a lot of work & introspection, but I believe that our best defense is forgiving, knowing, trusting & loving ourselves as much & as best as we can, so that we can learn to avoid people & situations that could possibly put us at risk. But, again, even then, bad things can still happen, no matter what we do, & we can’t blame ourselves or let anyone try to make us feel worse for what we’ve been through because, regardless of the circumstances, rape/assault is NEVER the victim’s fault!!!! 100% of the time, the culpability lies with the perpetrator. It is their responsibility to not victimize other human beings. They’re the ones committing an egregious act that they know is hurtful & harmful. Rape and sexual assault/abuse does not occur due to predatory horniness. It is not about the sex or sexual act. It is ALWAYS about power & control. The cruelty is the point. They get off on dominating others. It is usually difficult for those of us who have been victimized to comprehend how someone can think, be & act this way, as we’re oftentimes the polar opposite of these monsters, but do not let yourself get stuck in “what if” thinking. If a predator violated you, there was not a darn thing you could have done differently to try to avoid it, as they were going to get what they wanted from you, no matter what, and what you wore, or said, or did made not a bit of difference to them. They are the ones we should hold accountable for their actions, as they are the ones who committed a crime & did something wrong. Stay strong. We may have been victimized, but that doesn’t mean we have to remain victims. We are survivors. <3