How to Stop Self-Sabotaging?

For long term change I suggest therapy if you're able. We do that shit cause of other truamas or issues and like for me I've put a lot of work in to not like outwardly do the self destruction but it's still running rampant in my head cause I haven't worked out why I do it or fixed the damage yet

Write a list of things you know are self sabotaging and try to slowly replace them with things you'd rather do I know it might not help everyone but it's the only way I've done it

It's really hard but try to notice everything happening around you in that moment and take it all in and tell yourself that you should be happy lol

Honesty if you have a boyfriend of a friend you trust to hell and back have them help. It sounds weird but my fiance lessens mine so ig just try