@Mimi01 within the past year my mother has started taking A for extended breaks; fall break, summer break, extended weekends for holidays, etc. However, A has come back to me overweight and now has multiple symptoms of diabetes (which my mom has.) A is allowed to do whatever, because they aren't being parented. My support system does what they can but is too much. I'm single and work full time from home, so I still have my other younger children to care for, who are also special needs. I don't get any assistance as I make too much, so child care is out. I'm connected to several places and departments in my State/County for any programs and funds available for us but with my work schedule I can't utilize a lot of the programs as they're during work hours. Even when I'm supposed to be recovering from a major surgery, I'm still in charge of all of this. I had to get off of my pain management medication post surgery so I could still drive to get the kids to their doc appts. I never understood the 'if you have 5 mins' thing for self care because when I finally get time, my executive dysfunction kicks in. I can't even get time to go to the bathroom by myself.

@SweetTea77 I appreciate this. A has had a team around them for years, but nothing has gotten better. In fact, it all seems to have worsened. A is just as manipulative as always. I have all of my papers in order in case something happens because I swear one night they are gonna kill everyone in the house so it can be just me and them. A lies to those in the programs who are supposed to help, putting on acts, so they don't get the real help they need.