How to Spot Neurotypical Manipulation

They usually pretty much are but it's not usually intentional. I like to stick with folks who are consistent. If they aren't I prob dont have patience for them

Lol I always assume they are until I know they aren’t

Being overly nice when their previous actions speak differently. Of course human behavior is complex but if that girl who calls you names and embarrasses you in social situation all the sudden becomes really friendly, just run. My biggest defense is patten recognition so I wield it. And if anything big happens between me and someone else who I know exhibits a lot of red flags I journal it all in defense of gaslighting. They dont need to know I do that but I can reference it and see if they are twisting things. And boundaries, even a small one like not answering a slightly invasive question and holding true to it, can help you see who respects it and who doesnt. Im still learning these things bit this is what I have found save my ass from someones abusive parents. And my own. Every situation will be different and not everyone who over steps boundaries mean deliberate harm but the ones who do will not change and will guilt you for the boundary.

what/who do you expect it is doing it? I don't need names or anything like that but if they're close to you and give you complicated feelings, for example an experience I had with someone using me, like one moment you couldn't love them more. they promise things like spending time with them on special days/doing certain things only with you but then go out and do it with someone else or just straight up without you and it breaks your heart and they do nothing to stop the behavior or fix their mistakes without you begging? they're using you and know it too. it sucks so much ass once you realize it, but it'll get better. you'll find people who treat you better then you ever hoped and they do it just cause they like you and nothing more.

i wish i knew! lol