Can Nice People Accidentally Abuse Others?

Yes, when there are deeper problems going on. However, the person is still responsible for it because logically they knew better

Definitely! There is a huge difference between nice and good. I assume you are meaning them synonymously but let’s go with the literal words. Nice is transactional; it’s doing things to appear a certain way. Good is doing things because you believe it’s the right thing to do. Lots of narcissists appear to be nice and honestly do a lot of nice things to help facilitate that image and they really do think they are nice people. The YouTube channel Cinema Therapy has a video about the difference between nice and good that I enjoyed lol.

Yes. This is possible. I've been a "nice person" but still ended up hurting people because I was so caught up in being that nice person that i didn't take care of myself. And with a history of childhood neglect and a lack of proper emotional education, I was unable to function the same way my peers did when it came to relationships. You can be ingorant and nice. You can be mean and aware. You can have good intentions but end up causing suffering. Someone who "cares too much about others" is soneone that doesn't take care of themself, and likely was never taught how to care for themself. I had to teach myself how to not pour from an empty cup, and that being too worried about others ends up becoming an obsession of the self, as twisted as that sounds. You give yourself to others until there's nothing left, and suddenly you don't know who you are, so you're empty, hollow, and ultimately insecure. This causes depression and by extension can result in destruction of any and all relationships that person has due to negative self talk and denial that anyone loves/cares about them. It's wallowing in self pity. The term for people that become like this is a Narcissist. Deep down, someone might actually want to do good things- but their lack of emotional intelligence actually causes the opposite to happen, and they end up hurting those around them and pushing everyone away.

I think it's possible. Generational trauma seems to be the thing I see the most when it comes to something like that. The first generation experiences trauma and they never get help to cope with it. That generation then goes on to raise the next generation hurting or abusing that generation in the process. And most of the time the older generation doesn't realize what they're doing to the younger generation. And then the cycle continues until someone out of a future generation decides to end the cycle after realizing the hurt and abuse all due to the first generation that experienced trauma. It's happened in my family a lot and there's many stories that I could tell. Most certainly if the walls of my home could talk there'd be a lot they'd have to say about the topic.

Like I'm genuinely curious