Are Some Red Flags Overrated in Relationships?

It depends on the situation and the person. I do tend to believe people when they show me who they are and when they are overly negative I cannot handle it emotionally. I feel too deeply to hear about thier constant internal suffering.

I’m autistic and a counselor in training. In my opinion it’s in the nuance of those complaints. Not having any friends- are they happy? Are they able to be by themselves and be ohkay? Or are they isolating to a point of detriment to mental health? Talking badly about toxic ex-partners: are they using it to explain a boundary or a trigger? Or are they hyperfixated on their negative experience that they are comparing the current relationship to that one? Hyper-fixating on the person you’re in love with: this one I’m very particular about. I’m Autistic and clingy, my partner is ADHD and clingy. I like it. I hyperfixated on him sometimes and the other way around. However, hyperfixations are supposed to come and go. Is the partner the only thing they focus on? The only thing they care about? Do they have no other interests or people and so the only thing in their life is their partner so they only option of something to focus on is the partner? There are nuances in the situation and I think that context is important.

I think so.