Heartbroken and Anxious: Dealing with a Sudden Breakup

I’m wondering if we dated the same person. I am so sorry you are going through it. Journaling and being reaffirmed by friends helped a lot because you will go through mixed emotions. Always try to remind yourself that it’s not you. You can’t control someone else’s decision to operate the way they did or withhold information from you. Own your feelings. It can take a long time but one day you realize the day wasn’t as bad and then the next day wasn’t either. Soon you start to have ok days and good days. Giving myself a glow up in every aspect of my life helped me love myself again and prepare for the day he regretted leaving me the way he did. That day never came but I am now with the real love of my life engaged to be married and a different person and I am relieved even though I look back at it and still hurt. Hope that helps. Again journal if you are ruminating!

When you planned to go to the same school, was the relationship the main motivation for that? Will you be studying in the same department? I'm sorry you're struggling, breakups are so hard. I hope you take space for yourself and explore who you are by yourself; it sounds like this guy is flaky and did you a favor.

I'm so sorry bit it sounds like he did you a favor since it appears by his behavior he is not consistent with his feelings. Allow yourself to feel bad about it. You will be ok, but it will take time. Keep busy with friends in the meantime