Feeling Like a Bad Person After Setting Boundaries

does anyone else feel like a bad person after they set a boundary? my boyfriend made a vaguely sexual joke earlier and usually i would laugh at it, but this time i could feel myself getting upset. i thought about it for a minute, let him know that i didn't like that + why i didn't like it, then he immediately apologized and let me know he would be more careful about his wording in the future. i am very, very lucky to have someone who listens to me and understands, but i still feel so, so bad. i don't think i'm upset at the joke anymore, or at least not when i think to hard about it, but i feel like a bad person. i feel like by telling him i was upset, didn't like something he did, and him agreeing to be careful i'm asking him for a lot?? i feel controlling. i feel like he's going to get tired of me overanalyzing his jokes. i feel like i'm weak and annoying for getting upset in the first place. it's been like 6 hours since the initial conversation but i keep resisting the urge to ask him if he's sure he doesn't hate me (i've folded a couple times and he's let me know he's still in love with me!!!) and i just feel like ripping my hair out. i feel like a bad person. like a bad boyfriend. i've made sure to take all my meds and let him know i wouldn't bug him anymore because he is literally at work while i have another spiral (praying the lunesta and seroquel kick in soon bc i am tired of being awake and thinking lol). i have even gone so far as to set an appointment with my psychiatrist ASAP bc i feel like my anxiety meds need to be adjusted. at this point, if i don't pass out after posting this, i will text my DBT phone coach. sorry for this long one, but have any of you gone through this? how do you not feel crazy/overbearing or like you're a bad person??