Feeling Guilty for Denying Husband Sex

How old are you? I'm in my late 30's and my sex drive has gone down to pretty much zero in the last year. I still want to be romantic. I think I'm starting menopause. What about aphrodisiac herbs there's a lot of herbs that can be worn as oils and ingested in tea that are said to be aphrodisiacs. I would ingest Damiana, cinnamon, clove and vanilla. In like a tea. It's ok to be ace. it's ok to be an ace person who occasionally has intercourse to make their partner happy. It's ok to be an ace person who only wants to on special occasion. Some people are ace flexible, mean once in a blue moon they are into it and want it because they want it. Sexual orientation is such a spectral thing for many people. I will say that forcing yourself to engage when you don't want to is self betrayal. Can you talk with your partner about this safely and comfortably? I would highly encourage that so he knows too, that you love and desire them but you're not interested intercourse and that it's not personal. If they love you they'll understand.