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4byfour

380d

Nsfw Why is it that I don’t ever feel turned on around people? Female and male. Like, sometimes I am, but then I guess I don’t get turned on enough to actually want to do anything. I know I’m not asexual because sometimes I feel something, but in general, I feel like I’m an incomplete ‘person’. I haven’t done anything with myself in 2 weeks. Honestly, I cried when I tried today. I’ve always been like this. Does anyone else struggle with this?

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    • superstellar

      379d

      totally agree with what everyone else is saying! check out some communities revolving around asexuality, they might help give you some clarity! this also may be a symptom of past abuse. for me personally, i know i struggle with sexual attraction because of my past history with sexual abuse. i still feel things on occasion, but it’s never a definite. you are not less of a person because you don’t feel these things— sex is not a need! you are just as much of a person as someone who identifies as hypersexual, etc! good luck on your journey! ❤️

    • AnimalBoy

      379d

      You could still be on the ace spectrum, theres a huge amount of labels including grayace which means feeling attraction occasionally but not as much as other people or demi ace which means only being attracted to people tou feel really close with or have romantic attraction to.

    • Randy42069

      379d

      I have the same feeling. But whenever it happens it happens in public which I feel embarrassed

    • superstellar

      379d

      totally agree with what everyone else is saying! check out some communities revolving around asexuality, they might help give you some clarity! this also may be a symptom of past abuse. for me personally, i know i struggle with sexual attraction because of my past history with sexual abuse. i still feel things on occasion, but it’s never a definite. you are not less of a person because you don’t feel these things— sex is not a need! you are just as much of a person as someone who identifies as hypersexual, etc! good luck on your journey! ❤️

    • RiverAquarius

      379d

      Hi there! Well, personally I'm demisexual and pansexual - basically I only experience sexual attraction after already having a deep emotional connection with someone, and then it doesn't matter their gender. However, demisexual does fall under the asexual umbrella. You said you're not asexual because you sometimes have feelings, but honey, sexuality is a spectrum! Have you considered like, asexual biromantic? Or gray rock ace? There's so many different terms out there, and sometimes one will just click! And sometimes not, and that's ok too! ❤️

    • Gingeralamode

      379d

      I do quite often! It's extremely common with sexual trauma. Also being asexual just means you're not sexually attracted to a person. You can be aroused but not attracted or anything in between :)

      • 4byfour

        379d

        @Gingeralamode thank you!!! I actually didn’t know that! What would the term be for someone who doesn’t experience arousal?

        • superstellar

          379d

          @4byfour i believe you’re still asexual! i would definitely recommend checking out some online communities for asexuality. from what my ace friends have told me, it’s really more of a spectrum than anything else!

    • SwordInTheDarkness

      380d

      I think you're perfectly normal. People paint sex as a "need," but more people than one would think have little to no interest in it.

      • 4byfour

        380d

        @SwordInTheDarkness thank you! I definitely fall victim to worrying about being ‘different’ a lot and this comment helps a ton

        • SwordInTheDarkness

          379d

          @4byfour 🤗

    • ClayBrooks

      380d

      Yeah. I was put on progesterone when I was 13 and my dad thinks thats why but idk, yeah ive had crushes but its never been...sexual? I mostly identify as demisexual meaning I need q close relationship with someone to really want to do the sideways tango. Don't get me wrong i see the appeal of it and i can see it being fun and enjoyable but its...idk not a need. Its more of something i would do to pass the time? Or when im in a deep romanic relationship than i think it would be more of a want. Idk its hard to explain

      • 4byfour

        380d

        @ClayBrooks thank you so much for understanding me! I’ve also always had crushes that weren’t sexual. I remember in middle school kids would talk about the hottest celebrities, and I’d have favorites and fixations but like, I never found them ‘hot’! Perhaps I’ll look into demisexuality

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