Coping with Mental Illness in a Relationship

Also, how were you diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder? Was it from his insisting that you're a "problem"? He either needs inpatient treatment or outpatient treatment away from you. This seems very toxic to me. Look up "narcissistic personality" on Youtube, a lot of psychologists make regular videos about dealing with narcissistic people. Learning about narcissists has changed my life for the better!

If he isn't good for your own mental health, then this is a huge red flag. You need to take care of yourself first. This is just my opinion, but this relationship sounds toxic to me. He shouldn't be getting angry with you for having basic mental health needs.

I would say if he is triggering you knowingly that is a bad sign. I suggest having a loved one help him and you take time and see a therapist/professional help. I would say him as well but he needs either out patient away from you or inpatient with professional help. You need to protect and help yourself.

Hi kitkat.. it sounds like you’re going through a really hard time. Taking care of your husband sounds like it might not be the right thing for your own mental health. Do you have family or friends that can take care of him for a while?

If your husband is a threat to himself or others, an In-Patient psychiatric facility may help him to start getting immediate help. After being in-patient, obtaining out-patient care is often more accessible. If your husband chooses to go in-patient, please research available facilities to find one that has good reviews & is equipped to manage his specific psychiatric concerns.