Constantly seeking reassurance from my FP

This is hard, but we need to learn how to reassure ourselves. I am no way there, but I try and do this thing called, checking the facts. I will ask myself if I did anything wrong and examine that, I will reassure myself by demonstrating that this person does like me or love me despite everything I do. Sometimes we need to take a break and get away from that situation. Just like the prior comment that talked about journaling It is good to get all of your thoughts out of your head and dump them on paper Have you ever heard of wisemind from DBT. I would look that up and try and do that daily. I will give an example, let's say I have this thought that my boyfriend hates me because he isn't talking or reacting as I like. I would list all the emotional sides to that, and then list all the rational sides and work on a middle ground. My emotional side can be my boyfriend hates me, he wants to leave me, he doesn't love me I can rationally say, I didn't do anything wrong, my boyfriend is having a bad day, I can tell myself that this is his norm. Where the wisemind comes in is where I would tell myself I am really worked up and emotional because I think my boyfriend is going to leave me, but I didn't do anything to upset him and he is just doing his own thing.

Journaling often helps to clear my mind or at least get me to move out of the emotion. Lately I also feel like I’m annoying my fp