what do you do when your favorite person has feelings for someone else? my wife/ex has bpd too and now she’s infatuated with someone new and i’m still infatuated with her. we’re best friends and roommates still so that makes it extra hard. i don’t know how to deal with the jealousy and the fear of abandonment and i don’t want it to ruin our friendship. and i have terrible social anxiety and no friends so finding a new favorite person isn’t an option lmao.

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

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  • Nanerinsaner


    Well I don’t know personally how your friendship dynamic is with them but living with them will make it a lot harder definitely.

  • DumbJock


    Hmm I’m not sure what to do specifically but in my bpd experience, please don’t rush or jump into decisions recklessly… it can ruin things for you 😅 I love love love my pros and cons lists. Learning to push your heart aside and let your brain guide, which I TOTALLY know is easier said than done.

  • DoctorStrangeS1mp


    When I get new FAvorite people I still genuinely love and care about the previous favorite people just as much. I just want to learn more about the new favorite people. In a way I guess you could say I collect them. So the new one gets attention but the old ones can too and I love them the same way I always did. I’ve learned over time how to set boundaries during breakups and friendship issues and I don’t think I would ever hurt my partner in this way but say I became FP with a platonic friend or a celebrity I would still love my partner for all the reasons I did when they were my FP But I have my little collection lol

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