Struggling with Self-Identity

I had this issue so bad at the end of high school. I went from extremely masculine to dressing like most of the girls in my school with my natural hair and everything. I was miserable in both of those states because I tried to be someone I wasn't. My best coping mechanism was to find a vibe I connect with most and try to tie my outward appearance towards that vibe. I feel good in myself because I like the way I look and I feel slightly more stable in who I am being able to label my "vibe"

Took me til I was almost 27 to start living as authentically me. I'm also queer and was deeply in the closet which played a major role of that. I'm 31 (32 this weekend!) and I've never felt better than I do now regarding being myself! :) I believe you'll get there too!

This is definitely the BPD/cluster b mood lol. I know this feeling all too well.

im 23 and also felt like this my whole life

This is my life. I’m 23 and I don’t know a single thing about myself except I wish she were dead.

I wish I could say it goes away but I’m still struggling with it at 28. It has gotten easier though

i feel the same way, sadly it is a very common symptom in bpd. i dont have advice i just wanted to lyk ur not alone