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sunflower7

749d

i feel like I've adjusted myself so much for other people that i no longer have a real personality and i have no idea who i am or who I'm supposed to be. i don't know how to get over this or how to find myself and who i really am and who i want to be. anyone else having this issue?

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    • Wintie

      749d

      I am definitely in your shoes right now... For me, I've been just separating myself a lot with people but I found that it makes it worse for me. Especially with my mental health, and I love to talk to the people I care about. Yet... I do not exactly feel like myself. I'm like this empty void with no one inside and it's just this weird aching and tiring feeling. It's very hard to unlearn bad habits for the better...which is something I am working on and willing to get better. It's very hard to do and I know I am not exactly patient with time and I like to be able to get better asap but then again... Time is very good for you too. I'd suggest that you take time for yourself whether it's walking, shopping, or browsing items or interest. Maybe pick up a sketchpad or a book? You could even journal as well! It will take time but .. I do know this from past experiences that it is good that it takes time to rediscover yourself. Things will get better if you let it get better... I believe in you! Be kind to yourself as well! :']

    • Wintie

      749d

      I am definitely in your shoes right now... For me, I've been just separating myself a lot with people but I found that it makes it worse for me. Especially with my mental health, and I love to talk to the people I care about. Yet... I do not exactly feel like myself. I'm like this empty void with no one inside and it's just this weird aching and tiring feeling. It's very hard to unlearn bad habits for the better...which is something I am working on and willing to get better. It's very hard to do and I know I am not exactly patient with time and I like to be able to get better asap but then again... Time is very good for you too. I'd suggest that you take time for yourself whether it's walking, shopping, or browsing items or interest. Maybe pick up a sketchpad or a book? You could even journal as well! It will take time but .. I do know this from past experiences that it is good that it takes time to rediscover yourself. Things will get better if you let it get better... I believe in you! Be kind to yourself as well! :']

      • sunflower7

        748d

        @Wintie thank you, you managed to put it into words perfectly, it's nice knowing someone else has the same issue, i wish i could just fix it now and automatically know everything but unfortunately yeah it does take time :/ I'm willing to take the time though i just never know where to start, I'll keep trying to try new things like that though, i have to find myself somewhere :)

    • Baby_Cactus

      749d

      I feel this way too and honestly it’s been great to separate myself from my normal to see what I do and where the instinct is. Take time to pause and properly reflect what you want. If that’s to take a walk, go do it. Start small like that and work up.

      • sunflower7

        749d

        @Baby_Cactus that just convinced me to go on a walk like i wanted and it was very nice, thank you

    • MuffinCat

      749d

      yeah sometimes i feel fake because i feel like i just try to make other people happy and make them laugh and sometimes i feel like i am just an amalgamation of different faces. like with some people i’m more serious and with others i’m more like the butt of a joke. it’s hard to see who i really am and if i’m actually being genuine with my friends. i don’t really have any advice, because i still feel this way. but maybe just knowing others feel that way too will help?

    • NotVeryBendable

      749d

      I feel the same way, but it’s very tricky because I just want to separate myself from everyone for like two months to find who I am when I don’t feel like I need to please others, but I have a boyfriend and friends and family that I love and that I don’t want to be away from. It makes me feel bad because it’s not their fault that I changed myself to please them. They never asked me to do that. Ugh!

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