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ChickenCraze

756d

Who else feels this way? I don't want to do anything or see anyone. That's normal with depression and anxiety, but I also lack the desire to WANT to do anything or see anyone. Like, if there's a fix via medication or therapy, I don't want to put any effort into obtaining it. My family just puts up with me literally just laying around all day. I don't work and don't do most of the kid duties like school stuff. I feel like a failure, yet can't find motivation to change.

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    • NicoleAS

      755d

      That’s feelings sucks- I’m sorry you have dealing w/ it. I read a “quote” (on Instagram) “action comes before motivation” which the more I think on it, the more helpful it is- motivation will not likely come willingly, you have to just start something regardless if you feel like it. Don’t give up- you are worth the effort even if you don’t feel like you are. Doing something kind for someone else, always makes me feel better. Even if it’s just something simple like smiling at someone when you normally wouldn’t.

    • NicoleAS

      755d

      That’s feelings sucks- I’m sorry you have dealing w/ it. I read a “quote” (on Instagram) “action comes before motivation” which the more I think on it, the more helpful it is- motivation will not likely come willingly, you have to just start something regardless if you feel like it. Don’t give up- you are worth the effort even if you don’t feel like you are. Doing something kind for someone else, always makes me feel better. Even if it’s just something simple like smiling at someone when you normally wouldn’t.

    • Ashleyyy

      755d

      Life can feel extremely overwhelming at times, and I'm so sorry you are feeling that way now. I have been there many times. What has helped me most is knowing that I can do things to make myself feel better. Instead of feeling like everything is out of my control, I know that there are some things that will make me feel better in the long or short run if I embrace them. Take some deep breaths, and try to focus on what you can do to solve the problem instead of solely focusing on it. I have had trouble sleeping my entire life because of my anxiety, so I had to change a lot of things to make it better. I now have a set bedtime routine that starts after I take my melatonin. I dim the lights, play rain sounds, and get ready for bed. When I am feeling down, I try to do things that I know will make me feel better in the long run. Like getting 10-30 minutes of sunshine, doing a 15-30 minute workout, playing video games with my friends, or calling up a loved one.

    • ChickenCraze

      755d

      I'm 35. Kid duty stuff is for my kids, who I'm afraid will end up like me. I did feel the exact way as a kid though. Through years of treatment, I still feel the same.

    • ProbablyAnxious

      755d

      I have felt this way for years but didn't recognize it as being depressed. I'm still trying to wade through the waters on this myself. You're not alone. I think it really is about the small things. Start with one habit you want to incorporate into your day and try your best to follow through every day. I make my bed. At least if everything else in my life is falling apart, I made my bed. It's a simple comfort of accomplishment. Wishing us both luck.

      • ChickenCraze

        755d

        @ProbablyAnxious I try to do this. I have a bullet journal that I enjoy doing. In it I have a list of basics I should do every day to check off like brush my teeth, get dressed, clean for 10 minutes, go outside, shower, etc. They often go unchecked though :/

    • NEW

      755d

      I felt that way in late spring to early summer of last year. My now boyfriend broke up with me in the middle of the spring and that was really hard because I loved him and I still love him, even though we’re back together. It was so tough, like I didn’t want to be social or do anything or any of that. I was in a very vegetative state

      • ChickenCraze

        755d

        @NEW I'm so sorry. Heartbreak definitely makes things worse 😥

    • CameronElizabeth

      756d

      I understand lacking the motivation to make yourself feel better. I have felt like this many times. But I think the fact that you reached out for help says that some part of you, no matter how small, DOES want to feel better. First, as much as you can, love yourself and accept who you are right now. If you find that challenging right now, that's ok, just do what you can. Second, aim for tiny improvements every day or every week rather than pushing yourself to make giant changes. Small things that might seem insignificant at first. The important thing is that they are doable. Third, use community support. You're already reaching out, so that is a really good sign. We're rooting for you! 🤗

      • ChickenCraze

        755d

        @CameronElizabeth Thank you 💕💕💕

    • Charleslily

      756d

      I understand exactly how you feel. And I am sure I am old enough to be your grandmother. After having covid and suffering three Strokes three years ago I don't see the progression and I feel like I prison my own head. I do take Zoloft 100mg and I am feeling a little better. It sounds like you are in a right and I do think a selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor or SSRI would help you immensely.

      • ChickenCraze

        755d

        @Charleslily I totally get the prison in your own head feeling. I've been on several different medications. I've been on a Zoloft and Lamactil combo for a few years now. It works better than other things I've tried, but I still lack any desire to move.

    • RareEyez86

      756d

      Are your parents not concerned with what's going on with you? Do they not know your routine have changed do they not know that anything is off with you?

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