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MiriBekah

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I’m watching a show rn where a lady just had a baby and I’m crying my eyes out. I went through child sexual, physical, and psychological abuse and then recently got out of a domestic violence relationship. I wanted to have kids but I gave up on those dreams….it makes me cry to say that, but with what happened, even just going to the gynecologist triggers my ptsd and anxiety. I don’t know what to do anymore. It makes me so sad and I’m starting to wonder what is the point of living if I can’t go after my dreams? I cant even think about what to type anymore. I just want to know if anyone is experiencing the same thing. What do I do to get out of this hole?

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    • Cece7

      767d

      I went through abuse as a child too and definitely can relate to not wanting to have a baby because of it. The only child I have is from the day I was raped by the person I was in an abusive relationship with. After that experience I decided I will never have another biological child. It’s hard losing that dream of having multiple children and pregnancies for me it really hurts but I’m really hoping someday I’ll be ready to adopt a child and grow our family still just not in the traditional way. Still hard to know I’ll never be able to experience a pregnancy in a positive light with someone who really loves me and go through that process like normal. I just know no matter how much therapy I get I’ll never be able to do that again. I really hope you’re able to find someone to support you through this whether family, friend or therapist because I know it can be very overwhelming and hard to go through alone

    • Cece7

      767d

      I went through abuse as a child too and definitely can relate to not wanting to have a baby because of it. The only child I have is from the day I was raped by the person I was in an abusive relationship with. After that experience I decided I will never have another biological child. It’s hard losing that dream of having multiple children and pregnancies for me it really hurts but I’m really hoping someday I’ll be ready to adopt a child and grow our family still just not in the traditional way. Still hard to know I’ll never be able to experience a pregnancy in a positive light with someone who really loves me and go through that process like normal. I just know no matter how much therapy I get I’ll never be able to do that again. I really hope you’re able to find someone to support you through this whether family, friend or therapist because I know it can be very overwhelming and hard to go through alone

    • HappyFruit

      767d

      I’m really not sure if this is helpful, but would you consider adoption? That way you could share your love with a child of your own without having to go through the physical aspects? Sending so much love to you!🥰❤️

      • MiriBekah

        767d

        @HappyFruit I’ve thought about that, but I wanna have the experience of getting to know the baby before it’s born and to feel kicks and stuff. I want that mommy experience.

    • jorda

      767d

      I'm sorry to hear you've been through such trauma😥I haven't experienced anything that traumatizing, so I can't relate much. But please don't give up on any dreams you may have🥺 They are all still very much attainable despite the hardships that have discouraged you. I have many goals that I know for a fact ill achieve someday soon, but it has been so hard as I don't have much social support 😭 It's so scary & challenging overcoming uncertainty when you're all alone with no one to encourage you or just talk. It's something that's plagued me forever, but try your best at surrounding yourself with others who genuinely care about you & will be supportive of all your hopes & dreams💙 hope this helps a lil

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