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Damen

782d

how do I harness the overwhelming amount of information flowing through my head? I have many responsibilities so I cant just stop thinking about things but I try my best to not focus on problems, things that hurt ect. im have an extremely difficult time coming to terms with this life, its demands and rules.. I feel alone, I don't seem to get along with anyone around my area, ive always made friends wherever I go. im 38. im in bad shape and I feel alone. I have so many medical things to figure out and sort out, so on top of everything im dealing with alot of physical and mental pain. I hope this is ok, not too much.. its just what's been on my mind and I can only seem to bring myself to stare off into space while my mind races... I feel so trapped

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    • Damen

      775d

      @Skywing my beliefs are simple. Love everyone as much as possible, be the best person I can be, live God's will, not mine, and hopefully improve at least a little each day. I often seek refuge in music. It is also instrumental (no pun intended 😅) in keeping me sane and finding joy on the bad days when in the darkness. Anything my mother loved completely breaks me. I feel like crying can be healthy and healing, but as a 38 y/o male, I feel like I cry far too much. 3-4 days out of the week I'll have spells where I just get so sad at a song, movie, comment ect..

    • Squarepeg

      778d

      Give yourself credit for your accomplishments, they do not have to be big. Delegate or offload a few responsibilities if you can, if not, think about what makes them so difficult and see if there are any adaptations, resources, or tools you can use to make them less burdensome. Share feelings, whether on here or with someone else. Just venting can help alleviate some stress. How has sleep been? I know that when I don’t, I fall apart quickly. Make sleep a priority even if it means putting yourself first; it’s not selfish. When my mind races, I pick up an activity that is distracting and doesn’t require much thought. For me, it can be talking on here, a computer game, cleaning, music, or audiobook. I’ve also learned to take breaks from the news & social media. I’m not sure if our struggles are the same, but, hope you find something I said helpful. My mind used to race from one thing to another so frequently, I would be awake for days at a time. Eventually, I found what works by trying different things. And for when it’s really bad, I turn to medication in addition (gabapentin and trazodone). I also agree with making lists, however, I also hate them. I sometimes use my phones reminders and calendar to help stay on track.

    • Skywing

      778d

      I'd have to ask what your beliefs are, but Simplicity OKC is real nice. Also, if um...you're looking for music to scream love to you, Wolves at the Gate is wonderful, but metal. They have a lighter album with remakes of their metal songs. I can specifically recommend the song Relief. "Your burden is not unknown." Breaks me on the regular.

      • Damen

        775d

        @Skywing my beliefs are simple. Love everyone as much as possible, be the best person I can be, live God's will, not mine, and hopefully improve at least a little each day. I often seek refuge in music. It is also instrumental (no pun intended 😅) in keeping me sane and finding joy on the bad days when in the darkness. Anything my mother loved completely breaks me. I feel like crying can be healthy and healing, but as a 38 y/o male, I feel like I cry far too much. 3-4 days out of the week I'll have spells where I just get so sad at a song, movie, comment ect..

    • Bus

      782d

      I feel the same way. I'm pretty young and so are you but it feels like I already don't know what I'm doing. But it usually helps me to remember there is no plan. Which is honestly freeing because it means you don't have to have one. I try to to get through the day and do the things I find joy in and distract myself from how odd the bigger picture feels sometimes. It doesn't require religion or anything like that. Just a way to feel less small and more happy

      • Damen

        775d

        @Bus thanks. I appreciate the positive feedback and encouragement 🙂

    • Unknow

      782d

      Some people do go to church to have some kind of support system and I guess it's a spiritual one. Some go to senior centers and make friends there during the day

      • Damen

        782d

        @Unknow ive been wanting to start going to church i just always disliked it as a kid so I never really went when I got older.. maybe itd be different now

        • Unknow

          782d

          @Damen sometimes people start reading the Bible on their own and you don't have to start at the beginning at Genesis. You could pick some easier books or some like to start at the Gospels. Some people like Psalms and proverbs to read

    • Unknow

      782d

      You can always write down your list of responsibilities you need to get done that day. And whatever your health issues are just make sure you take your meds like you're supposed to, eat healthy, get some kind of exercise, have a support system, and don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it.

      • Damen

        782d

        @Unknow good idea.. maybe writing things down will help me deal better.. take some out of my head and put it on paper. Thank you

        • Unknow

          782d

          @Damen you're welcome! A friend of mine would keep a diary of her meds and how they affect her each day. Sometimes she had migraines and she had to be aware of what she ate to see if they were affecting her migraine as well. Sometimes doctors ask questions and if people take notes of their different symptoms then they're able to tell their doctor about it and what they were doing when the symptom came up

    • Unknow

      782d

      I just joined this yesterday and I think you could just put almost anything on here if somebody asked you questions about your health issues.

    • Unknow

      782d

      Your mind races? As a symptom? Sometimes that's considered to be part of bipolar. I don't know what kind of information is going in your brain but sometimes my brain is telling me about a to-do list and so I might as well write down the things I need to do and start scratching them off as I do them so I could feel like I accomplished something.

      • Damen

        782d

        @Unknow mostly just in general I seem to have a hard time focusing, I cant keep my train of thought.. my memory is horrible

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