Feeling Helpless About My Friend's Depression

i’m so sorry. just remember that sometimes depression is so dark you cannot see the good in the world. you can’t see anything worth living for. i have been there. and then i have come out of it and realized i have so much to live for. try not to take it personally. she may be in a very very dark place and cannot see any reason. i would also really implore you to suggest her getting help

Imagine that you are both planets, and hers is covered in clouds and it’s dark and filled with pain. You are the sun, bright and trying to warm her up with the good things that you have to offer her, she can feel and see the light, but the pain and the clouds of her own world are still there, it’s still a really dark place. She thanks you for the sunlight, but it’s not enough to change the planet that she has become because of years of being this way.

🤗 my heart goes out to you dm me if you need to talk to somebody I have gone through three tries of suicide and it did not work three times in 3 days and now I am an advocate for diabetes and depression and anxiety all of which I have.. while I don't know exactly what you're going through I do know maybe a little bit how you feel. Please take care of yourself and hope your friend is okay 💗👍🌞

One lesson I've learned from being depressed and having a boyfriend with depression and a best friend with depression and another close friend with depression and... you get the theme... is that depression can make a person so, so selfish. It isn't that the depressed person IS a selfish person, or that that is part of who they are, but being in pain like that makes you selfish. I think without realizing that, a lot of what you wrote reflects that for yourself too. I hear a little selfishness in the pain of the message "she is my will to live... why am I not hers?". No judgment, and not a disparagment!! It isn't your fault, it's the nature of the beast that is depression. It's something I have to remind myself of that when my boyfriend says or does things that hurt me but are just him acting from a place of deep pain. All that said, she may value you very highly and care for you deeply and you may bring great joy to her life too, but she is just suffering so much right now that she's forgotten about that. At some point, the pain can overshadow any light that used to be in a person's life. That is also when they become most dangerous to themselves... when you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, how do you get yourself to keep walking forward? Of course that is the great struggle of depression, right? How to find light in the darkness, hope in the hopelessness, comfort in loneliness, joy in the sadness. Idk about you, but most of the time I settle for progress. I'm sorry you feel so alone. I hope you are able to find spaces with community and compassion for you. Feel free to reach out to chat if you need it. My prayers are with you ❤

I'm really sorry you're stuck in this position , you should find some ways to cope and become more independent from her and make some new friends

i don't... have other friends. just her :/

Oh I'm really sorry, this seems really hard on you I think maybe you should find some other friends to help you out I know she's your best but sometimes you got to care for yourself too and you could also have other people to talk to and hang out with

i have told her how i feel about her, i just... i don't know how else to express it. i'm completely open and honest with her, she knows exactly how i feel all the time because i'm comfortable enough with her to tell her. recently, i guess i've just been getting the feeling that she doesn't care about me.

I think its pretty normal to feel that way I've gone through a similar situation I think you should express how you feel with her if you are comfortable with sharing your feelings and you can say you don't mean it in a way to make her feel bad but it's important to express how you feel about that