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Just kinda want to vent … I had a not so great childhood … and I have some pretty bad trauma.. not going into what happened but I was watching a series on something and it made me think of it. I brought it up to my significant other and I made a comment “do you still think it is fake” And he kinda was just really nasty and shitty about it saying he told me he believed me years ago and that I bring it up every time but it’s so hard for me.. It was hard to hear him say that in the first place many years ago… not feeling believed when u tell your partner …the closest person to you your worst secret about your traumas something you thought u would never tell a soul and then to feel rejected and that he didn’t think that would have happened but it did and it fucking sucks and I do think about it sometimes and I just want someone to support me. It was so hard to tell him in the first place. I regret bringing any of it up😞 he did say he was sorry but he left the room after a few mins and I just kinda hid around the house crying … and it will be like none of that ever happened and brushed under the rug like everything else…Is it so bad I just want reassurance sometimes? To be able to feel accepted by your partner..
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Those who have never experienced childhood trauma have a difficult time understanding what it's like, I think. And it is definitely not asking too much to have support from your significant other. That's what they are supposed to do. My wife keeps thanking me for doing everything that I do for her because she's never experienced someone that supported her.
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@sorenachy yea I can see that. Something I do a lot is apologize… if I’m sick I say sorry, if I didn’t keep up I’m sorry, if something I did wrong wasn’t 100% right I’m sorry, I’m also sorry for being sorry 😞
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@LaurElizabeth my wife is the same way. I just keep reminding her that it's ok and I'm not going anywhere. It's taken me years, but she finally understands that I'm sticking around. Even us getting married didn't convince her of this at first. We've been married 2 years
Some people just aren't able to understand. People that haven't gone through anything... You have to find those that are able to understand and rely on them....
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@Chesbro99 true.. I am glad to have found some awesome people to rely on. Just wish I could have him support me too.
As already stated, you're not asking too much. Some reassurance is something we all need & deserve. I am sorry you've not received that. How to get that reassurance, I don't know. Blessings to you!
@TabbysMom thank you so much not sure yet how to either but just got to try my best
No it is not bad to want reassurance of from your partner. It is expected from a significant other. That is often the first source of acceptance. I understand how you felt, being ignored. It makes you not want to share anything else personal. ❤️to you.
@Dancemonkey 💜 thank you for understanding
I really hope you find some support. I realize how devastating not having your significant other believe you is. Have you tried an online therapist? Avibra had $1 benefits for awhile but they said no providers in my state, so it never worked for me.
@betsybetsybetsy2021 thank you I do see a therapist in person weekly thinking of trying emdr possibly tho
I have an issue with people not believing me as well. It has been an ongoing trend in my life. People are also tired of hearing the same stuff about me, but my current situation has nothing to do with my childhood. People fail to realize that this isn't a plea for sympathy. I have been stuck in living situations with people under the influence and no matter how many meetings I go to, I can't get those in denial to want to change if they aren't ready. I can show them what they are missing out on to a certain extent but at a certain point if they get me cleaning up and cooking for them, I am just enabling them further. But what choice do I have, I need a roof over my head. I won't be dealing with substance abuse in my future. I won't be the right person to accompany people to meetings as I am as sober as it comes. They resent my soberness and seeming perfection being blind to the enormous problems I am shouldering silently and alone. I can be knowledgeable about resources and guide people towards solutions for identified problems but I am not a doctor or psychiatrist to diagnose. I am just a person who talks to other people and cares while pursuing my goals.
@betsybetsybetsy2021 oh my. I am so sorry. I am in a similar situation. I cook & clean for others as well. I & my furkids need a place to live. So I keep doing for them. Please find some way of caring for yourself too. I know it is hard but you have to. We have to. Love & light to you!
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