Feeling Ugly in My Prom Dress

Hey. I feel super similarly. I have been in quiet a few relationships and I have always hated when my significant other says things like "I love currier girls" or like acknowledges the size. I am a little on the cubbier size. But I agree with the comments it sounds like he is trying but it is okay to calmly sit him down and say "hey - I don't like how you addressed this." And "hey can you speak your mind more? I just have trouble feeling like you found my attractive" and figure out calmly what he can do to make you feel more cared about. I think you just really need to talk with him and understand where he is coming from, and if its a place of arrogance and cruelty then you deserve better. But maybe he just doesn't know how to emphasize correctly

Lots of people are attracted to bigger bodies, trust me, I've lived in one my entire life. It isn't rare at all.

Believe it or not, there ARE men who do not have a preference for thin bodies! They are rare, but they DO exist. Don't lose weight unless YOU want to. Besides, confidence is far more important! You will see loads of women out there bucking the system and challenging our rigid beauty standards. I recommend following some plus size models and actresses. Naomi Watanabe is one I really admire. She is from Japan, which has REALLY strong biases against large people of any gender, yet she is very upbeat, confident and successful. People like her are starting to change the way we view body types. There is also a plus size model on KILLSTAR who even has vitiligo. Change your own perspective and you'll be surprised at how others' view of you changes in response!

Make yourself feel beautiful, how you look to yourself is more important, but have your boyfriend also help boost your self confidence is great help! In a relationship you both need to build each other up.

As long as YOU feel beautiful, that’s all that matters unless it becomes harmful to your health. ❤️

I've been overweight most of my life. My mom and a few other relatives always had something to say about my weight. I never felt beautiful, still don't! My husband was also overweight but he was able to get our insurance to agree to pay for a gastric bypass so now he's lost over 200 lbs and I've only lost 37 lbs (on my own without surgery) and he keeps telling me I need to lose more and things like that. It really makes me feel so much worse about myself. I'm here if you need to talk 💕 And your boyfriend does seem to love you, even if he did make you feel bad. Just keep communicating your feelings to him.

Your boyfriend sounds like he truly cares, but lacks experience on how to deal with your issues. It's not his fault, he's trying but nobody is perfect. Him loving you for you is something that not everybody has in their relationships, he sounds like a genuine and good person that is just not used to dealing with this type of issue. He means well. You're beautiful on the inside and out, and he recognizes that so maybe he can help you recognize it too.