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Jaejae

664d

TW i don't know why, but I'm always so obsessed with wanting to be perfect for my bf. is that normal? he says he likes how I am now, but I don't feel like I'm enough. he said he wants a waist bigger than 32 inches, and im only 31.5. I want to be everything for him. I want to be smaller at the same time, but he likes love handles and etc, but I don't have any. should I overeat to achieve this? I don't know what to do. I was so happy I cried when I lost weight but now I'm insecure about it again. I feel like he wants me to be chubbier. I want to be everything for him. what should I do? is there any way to keep slimming my stomach but gain love handles and stuff..??

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    • Jaejae

      663d

      @lavender_tunrida well idk. I always say sum that brings it up ik, so technically it's me but still.😂

    • lavender_tunrida

      664d

      Do you ask him these things or does he just say it randomly? I always ask my partner questions that I actually don't want to know the answers to 😭

      • Jaejae

        663d

        @lavender_tunrida well idk. I always say sum that brings it up ik, so technically it's me but still.😂

    • SourLemons

      664d

      if he truly means that he likes you as you are, then i think you're already in a good place to be a person who makes him happy. it *is* normal to want to do more and be more for someone you love, but it sounds to me like he already appreciates you as you are. maybe it'd help to talk it through with him, tell him that you're struggling with that insecurity and aren't sure whether to stay slimmed down or gain weight. whatever the case, you are no less of a person for how you look, and your worth doesn't belong in that image, either. i hope your relationship is a happy one, OP. sending positive vibes ♡

      • Jaejae

        663d

        @SourLemons thanks, and I couldn't wish for anyone better than him. Sure we may I argue sometimes, but doesn't everyone? It's healthy to argue sometimes. We don't argue much ontop of that. He says he likes how I am now, if I asked him he would prob say to do what's comfortable ig.

    • Kenziebear

      664d

      Me too

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