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Geena81

749d

Does anyone else ever feel like a complete failure as a person? Like no decision that you've ever made has been the right one, and now you're just wasted space?

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    • specialCharlee51

      744d

      @AuntBeeDoesGames 💕 very well stated.

    • specialCharlee51

      744d

      Yes, we all can put unbelievable pressure on ourselves to be perfect. To be right. To be a successful person. That's normal. When That's the problem making list of small but meaningful things to do can help show you how well you are growing and learning to give yourself some space to make a few decisions where you are confident and assured. No one is perfect. You have value and worth. Set some small achievable goals and as you gain some self esteem your entire outlook can improve. You sound rather young, remember even the smartest, most efficient and accepted people didn't start off as geniuses. Try expanding your circle of friends and allow yourself to learn from everything you do. I think if you give yourself a chance to succeed OR fail, you'll begin to understand that life is not always easy. Keep trying. Don't be too quick to label yourself as inadequate.

    • Missa526

      745d

      Constantly. I can't work, I'm in physical therapy for muscle wasting, I have recurrent pancreatitis and am on digestive enzymes. I can barely take care of myself, my boyfriend (25 years together, since I was 16) and my dad take me to Dr appointments because I can't drive. I get in modes where all I do is think about all the times I've let people down or hurt people. I ruminate on the negative for hours. I feel like a waste of space most of the time. Especially since I lost one of my best friends and my mom last year. I felt like I didn't do enough. My friend died January 23rd and my mom died of a very rare and aggressive cancer March 25th. Both 2021. I've been so down on myself ever since. I'm bipolar 2 and the depression hit hard with severe agitation. It's hell. But I carry on for them, my dad, my boyfriend, and my last remaining friend. Can't let anyone else down, right? Then I'm an even bigger failure.

      • AuntBeeDoesGames

        744d

        @Missa526 would you talk to your friend like you are to yourself? What would you say to your friend if she was going through what you are? You and I and I'm for certain the rest of the country even the world need to be friends with ourselves. At the end of the day, you are doing what you mentally and physically can do...why sell yourself short? Give yourself credit for the little victories and those failures are not the end. Failures tell us how not to do something...insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different outcomes...you need to start doing things for you...stop looking outward for your motivation at the end of the day we are left with ourselves...our passed loved ones wouldn't want us to live like we are...do something for yourself you are worth it! You are a diamond 💎....diamonds require lots of pressure to form...we will shine in the end just keep pushing through so what you can and meet yourself half way as you would your friend :) I'm learning this myself

        • specialCharlee51

          744d

          @AuntBeeDoesGames 💕 very well stated.

    • Ash181

      748d

      Yes Definitely and it’s such a tough feeling with wanting to be positive and okay for others while you are slowly going back to that mindset🥺

    • AuntBeeDoesGames

      749d

      Mistakes help us learn how not to do things...find another way and try again....insanity is when you do the same thing over and over again expecting different results.

    • AuntBeeDoesGames

      749d

      Yes all the time...that would be the inner critic in us talking...not one single successful person in the world made no mistakes until they got it right....you are just in the until stage. https://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/15-highly-successful-people-who-failed-their-way-success.html You shouldn't believe everything you think-Robert Fulghum Would you talk to your friend like that if she was going through what you are? Correct yourself when negative voices are tearing you down. For every negative thing replace it with two positives. Ie. You're "wasted space". Well, no you're not...people who murder people or mentally abuse other people are...you are a good person...you are just surrounded by the wrong crowd...change the channel...join a local group or class of something you always enjoy doing...don't like the way someone speaks to you. Tell them you don't have to listen to them and walk away...

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