Maeson

251d

how can I deal with the death of my only friend, who happened to be a cat? she was my only real companion among along abusive live both home and school. my dad made me hold her while he shot her (she had cancer and we couldent make it to the vet before shed have died from an infection, due to a cancerous tumor that burst open) and I just can't get it out of my head. she was the only living thing i ever felt understood me compleatly, and when I try to talk about it, people say "it was just a cat"

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)

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  • UselessBagOfMeat

    251d

    Holy crap that sounds seriously traumatic, and your dad sounds like an insult to garbage everywhere. I’m so sorry, I can’t imagine how that feels. I have a cat who is just about 16 years old, and she’s all that got me through 2019. I love her so dearly and have no idea how I’ll survive without her when that day comes. And I’m sure that people will also tell me that she was “just a cat” and those people might see me become full on violent towards another person for the first time in my life. She’s my world, and everyone closest to me knows it. I wish I had some words of wisdom, but feel free to dm me any time.

  • SandyBee

    250d

    I am incredible sorry for your loss and am sending you so so much love right now <3 I would encourage you to talk to a therapist about this because there must be strong emotions bubbling inside you right now. Use all the coping skills in your toolbox! If it doesn’t hurt to hang out with other animals, then get some therapy from them too! As for your father, that is no way to parent and he most likely needs therapy himself. I am a little concerned for your safety as his child.

    • Zhuzhu_puffs

      249d

      I think it’s inappropriate for you to attack ones father , unaware of what their situation may be. Veterinary services may be costly , and out of reach. Comfort of the animal can also mean not wanting to leave their owner or their home. It may apply unecessqry stress on both the animal and owner.Time also plays a very big role when it comes to suffering and there’s not always a happy option available . My boss has had to put down a seizing cow after 35 minutes , a human would die after 20 minutes of seizing. I apologize if this message seems harsh but I imply you keep an open mind when providing support for another person. Thank you

  • Zhuzhu_puffs

    249d

    I can understand how you feel I work on a farm and it’s pretty common to bond with the animals . What not everyone sees is pain they are in until it’s too late . Animals can’t speak to us and we may not always be aware , no matter what the case may be. During the summer I’ve had to put down animals in similar ways and it can be heartbreaking. To have bonded with an element of existence and take it away can feel traumatic , but it is better then watching something you care about suffer. Regardless of it’s species. It’s not easy. As time goes on you’ll begin to handle the feeling much differently. It’s important to understand life and death is not our fault. So please don’t feel guilty on what might run through your head, I’ve found that making your thoughts physical (such as writing them in a letter to the deceased), or putting your emotions into moving (a dance)will help create meaning and settle down your mind. Feel open to reach out if things get tough , you’re not alone in this journey 🤎

    • Masscrystal

      237d

      couldn’t have said it better thank u

  • Proxy

    249d

    Pets can be wonderful companions that are so hard to lose. When your ready, getting another cat if possible might help you heal. Beyond that, maybe try to find an online group for support if you don't have support irl. And remember that your cat would want you to keep fighting to live your best life. If you feel like you're in danger there's places that can help with that too, for reporting and getting out of that situation.

  • Proxy

    249d

    Oh p.s. one other idea I thought of is getting something to memorialize your cat. Paint a rock, plant a plant, get a tattoo, etc. Whatever feels meaningful to you.

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