Lucas.exe

120d

did anyone else not realize how effed up their childhood was until you were an adult?

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

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  • OwlFae

    120d

    Honestly. It took me until I was 15 to realize that "Tangled" had a villain and that it was Mother Gothel because I had just assumed all mothers were like that. It's embarrassing. Slowly piecing together how screwed up my childhood was.

    • Lucas.exe

      120d

      yeah I'm slowly realizing too. I knew it was kinda bad but like... I didn't know it was that bad at 😅

  • SalineTurnip

    120d

    Yep. I didn't know until I was almost 30. Abuse was normal for me so I thought all families were like mine. What made it worse was my friends' parents were just like my abusive parents so I thought everyone was like that. It's been two years since I got away from them and I already know I'll never get to a point where I don't need therapy and I don't have nightmares about them. Add to that, I live with my brother and he's just as abusive as they are. I'm hoping my other sib and I can be away from him by very early next year. So I can finally start to heal and live my life.

  • dayzed

    120d

    I just assumed my childhood was normal before realizing how all that was horrible and that other "good" families weren't like mine. I always thought that show TV parents were horribly unrealistic until I made a friend who has a very stable and kind home life as a teenager.

  • Bec89

    120d

    It’s so incredibly hard to admit when it was messed up when you love your family so much. But mine was. It is definitely why it is hard for me to trust and not feel like I’m being used or that I won’t end up alone. Unfortunately I am 1 out of 8 kids and at least 6 of us will not have easy lives. But we push through because there is a point to succeeding and making sure our futures aren’t the same.

  • GenderlessGoose

    120d

    I'm still struggling to grapple with how messed up my childhood was. I've joked about it over time, but im still trying to fully come to terms with the fact that things could've been better. my relationship with my father has never been more minimal and I know its better for me, but I can't help but worry that I'm actually just avoiding the problem because of all the guilt he's instilled in me

    • Lucas.exe

      120d

      my relationship with my dad is so weird... I don't even know where to start

      • GenderlessGoose

        116d

        I totally feel that. I've managed to distance myself more in the last few years, but before rhat it was even more complicated because the more often I see him, the more weird and complicated it is

  • thatweirdspice

    120d

    I definitely didn't realize how messed up my childhood was until like about 3 years ago and I only realized it because a friend of mine pointed out that I should not have to be wearing a hoodie in August to school to cover up bruises that My adoptive mother left behind

  • TheLovelyLeo

    119d

    Sad to say I was in my 20s before it hit me and 30 before I was able to really acknowledge it. Still need to unpack it to this day. I have a therapist but I need to buck up and get a new one because this one is no help when it comes to my past and the mess my mom and grandma made.

    • GenderlessGoose

      116d

      I just have to say, go for it. I stayed with the same therapist for almost 3 years making no progress, didn't go for almost 2 years because I was scared to get another therapist that didn't help, and just finally made the leap to start seeing someone new and im really hopeful. I promise it's worth it.

      • TheLovelyLeo

        116d

        I do need to make the leap….my therapist really IS a sweetheart but I feel like I’m getting nowhere with her. Glad the switch is working out for you!!

  • BaileyFawn

    119d

    I've come to realize that i could've been either kidnapped, killed or mugged when i was a kid... short answer, yes...

  • Reallyhopeful

    116d

    🙏 I came from a large blended family. I was "abused" by my uncle at 5 yrs old. Raped by two men at age 16. One got me pregnant and I raised him myself. I was a young single mom trying to make it on my own. My step father was physically abusive to all my brothers and me. He never scolded his own children (he had five). My step family was mean and his kids bullied us, stole from us, lied to us, give me alcohol and then tell my stepdad and I would get beat again. Now though, we have all grown up and most of us get along finally. I speak to all my family still, but some of my family still hates each other. That's messed up right there!

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