Did I Get Assaulted? Confused and Scared

If that wouldn’t have been a normal and ok thing for him to do sober, nothing changes if you guys were high. Seems like very inappropriate and was clearly scary to you. But you are really the only person who can label and define that as an assault. I would focus more on your emotions behind it, labels don’t change experience

Someone should only proceed with getting physical if they can definitely, confidently see/hear that the person is interested and into it! If there is anything that is slightly unclear, they shouldn’t be proceeding!

As a sexual assault survivor, I will tell you that this isn't your fault. None of it. Being stoned is NEVER an excuse for someone to assault you. Ever. You can always talk to me about it.

it sounds like you just didn't communicate your discomfort very well, probably because you were high out of your mind. it's a good sign that he stopped as soon as got an obvious No and helped you get dressed. men are a little bit stupid sometimes and don't pick up on body language as quickly as we would, especially if he was also high, so it's just as likely he didn't know you were uncomfortable if you never said the words out loud. it sounds like you're not in any danger from him, so call him or meet him in a public place to talk about what happened and what your feelings are about it. he probably has no idea you're panicking about it. talking to a counselor might also help you process the event

No means no. If you said you weren't comfortable and things that made you feel uncomfortable happened then yes you were assaulted. Also the fact If he knew you were intoxicated and still tried is assault. You don't have to feel like you didn't do enough or say enough to not get assaulted. And something tells me by the fact you even asking this questions means you were. Talk to someone you trust or a counselor if you need help so you don't always question yourself over this. Also if this situation ever happens again (God forbid) go to a local hospital and ask for a SANE nurse. Don't wash up, change clothes, or even brush your teeth before you go. They can collect saliva and save your kit even if you decide not to turn it over to authorities.

He should have asked for your consent before taking off your clothes. You were inebriated to the point that you weren’t able to consent it sounds like, so that would be classified as assault. Just know what happened isn’t your fault, please know that. I can’t tell you what his intentions were, but that doesn’t discount the fact that your feelings are absolutely 100% valid!