Dealing with difficult parents

venting, my parents are nice enough to everyone but me. like right now my mother decided "oh you said no to me getting you water let's turn this into your a shity kid with an additude problem" my dad last night tossed our toster over on the porch because he doesn't understand it, who does that? like people have it worse than that but it's so upsetting. like why can't they have problem solving skills? I just wish my parents didn't sulk around and actully delt with their issues instead of making it my issue. I recognize they go through alot their childhoods suck and their trying, but I can't deal with them, it drives me crazy. I'm trying to be nice to them I'm trying not to start fights, like what more could I do? they don't listen to me they assume I'm doing something bad, like talking back talking shit about them, giving them aditide, of which I never do. I don't know man I'm just feeling extra fed up today. thank you for reading if you did.