Dealing with a Boyfriend Who Talks About His Exes

That’s baloney. He needs to be 100% with you. No more of that!

You are not being overbearing at all! That can be really hurtful when someone you love is constantly bringing up someone they used to have feelings for. If he isn't going to respect your wishes of him not talking about them, then that's a red flag right there. He should understand that it makes you uncomfortable and not do it. There's many other things he can share with you that don't involve his ex's.

Honestly I’ve been going through the same thing with my bf. He’ll like compare me to his ex, saying I’m so much better but I don’t want to hear about that. Like to me it feels like when they mention their ex their still thinking about them. It honestly hurts, I’ve also tried talking to them about it as well. I think it’s a hard spot to be put in because we care for them but in the process it’s hurting us. Just know you’re not alone, and if you ever want to talk I’m here :)

if you’re uncomfortable with it, definitely not overbearing…he should understand where you’re coming from especially if you are uncomfortable

I think it’s inappropriate especially since you said you’re not comfortable with it. Personally, I think it’s his own insecurity with him trying to convince you he’s attractive and desirable - which he obviously doesn’t need to do but that’s what people do. I would ask him how your relationship would suffer if both of you knew never knew much about each other’s exes.

That’s tough. In my opinion, if it makes you uncomfortable he should respect that and try to avoid bringing them up. There must be plenty of other memories he can share with you that don’t involve them. Also consider the context, he might be totally ignorant to how it makes you feel and not understand it at all. It might be a conversation worth revisiting