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Dating with BPD is actually hell on Earth and I wonder if i will ever find a partner who truly loves me and accepts me. Ive gotten people who SAY they are up for it but then ghost me or leave me. My longest relationship was 7 months turned into a 4 year situationship š¬. That was before my diagnosis so that situation was a mess and now we are not in contact. But because that situation took up so much of my dating years, now im entering the game late as hell with not as much experience as others and learning lessons at 24 I shouldāve learned when I was 19. If anyone with BPD or CPTSD has a success story to make me feel hopefuls that would be great. If you felt like you would never find someone but you did let me know so i donāt get let down by failed talking stages again. This one was going rlly good and I thought we actually had something good going on, we had even spent the holidays together but i guess not
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Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Anxiety (Including GAD)
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My boyfriend is very patient. He understands my issues and heās kind, understanding and gives me time. He helps me get better independently, for me and not for him. He supports me when Iām anxious because heās busy or unavailable. Heās all I couldāve hoped for after the abusive men Iāve been with before. Youāll find your one, I promise
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Iāve actually tried to push my partner away and break up with them. But they donāt budge they love me and they know Iām only trying to self destruct.
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Keep learning to be the best YOU. also something that saved my ass was making a list of Green Flags. For my to be SO. not what I was looking for but what would make for a safe healthy relationship.
Same. They say it will be ok. That will always be there. Until, it disrupts their life. Then they leave. They always leave.
bro im exactly in your shoes down to the age?! this is creepy! mine was a year exact and turned into a 4 year situationship!! im turning 24 and i ābroke upā with them at 19. we are twins. iāll be reading the comments with u š
I am 28 and met my partner 8 months ago ā¤ļø our relationship is tumultuous but we balance each other very nicely. He is patient, open, and understanding about all conversations regarding borderline along with any other comorbidities. Even when it takes some time to work things out, we always do. A year ago, I wrote almost exactly what you wrote in your original post on twitter. I felt very alone and helplessā¦.especially in love. I felt like I wasted time with abusive men in situationships and didnāt save my patience for my future spouse š„ one thing that I believe helped me get out of the cycle of dating psychologically, mentally, verbally and physically abusive men is being upfront about my symptoms without naming the disorder. It helped me stay in a mindful space and measure my partnerās behaviour changes effectively and not from a place of emotion or defense from stigma. Once I felt comfortable with my partner, labelling symptoms as they happen as romantic quarrels in pre-marital counselling seemed so much more affirming and like I was being seen as a human being and not a āproblemā like in past relationships. Staying in individual counselling, making and meeting goals, and having a non-biased person to chat with weekly have been my second saving grace. I was so prepared when I mentioned coupleās counselling 3 months into my relationship and my partner said YES. If I ever find myself searching for a partner again in the future, coupleās/pre-marital counselling will be non-negotiable in qualifications for dating. Couples counselling helps sooooo much in couples where borderline is present. I regret not starting sooner! Now that I have experienced dating an emotionally, financially, sexually, and mentally stable human being my standards have been even more clearly defined. I am NEVER going back. Individual counselling helped see me through all of these changes. I fully believe in you and your ability to use your disorder as a STRENGTH and not allow it to defeat you. You will find love ā¤ļø You will learn lessons on YOUR time schedule and not on the timeline that social media, our parents, etc plan out for us. You are not late. You will have success and learn from your mistakes. Falling in love quickly is painful most of the time but I learned to use it as a skill and I believe you will learn to use all of your borderline traits as skills in time ā¤ļø stay dedicated to getting better ā¤ļø
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listen honey, i was in the same boat. my ex literally left me because they "couldn't handle this anymore" but the person i'm with now has expressed their undying love and has done everything in their power to ensure that i stay as happy as possible, even with bpd. because we have boundaries setup for it. it's hard sometimes because he has adhd, but he really does try his hardest.
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Me and my partner have known each other since we where 5 and let me tell you it hasn't been easy he's watched me grow up into this women with all this trama but let me tell you that if they wanted to learn how to help you with it they would keep going strong and make sure your heads on right and you know what you stand for becuse you can't have someone stand next to you if you don't know what you believe in
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@KittyGreen I have PTSD btw
Hi, I have BPD and some other mental health things going on and Iāve been in a relationship for almost 6 years now. I think you need to find someone patient and kind and someone willing to learn about the disorder or at least help you through the dark times. I honestly understand how it feels to not know whether someone wants you or not but you will get there just find someone with patience, trust and an understanding nature and you will be fine! Keep your head up and youāll find them
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You are deserving to be loved, and there is no entering the game too late, we all learn at different paces even if we feel like it takes us longer than others. I have severe depression and often felt like I could never find a partner who had the patience for me. But I did, he is patient and has been wonderful and makes me want to be a better person
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