See Alike in...

Alike App

Browser

Struggling with a Cheating Partner and Mental Health

Jaelin

454d

me and my partners relationship isn't going well anymore after he cheated. it was my fault that he did because I have gotten too much to deal with because of my mental health I just need help to get over this I really love him but idk how to stop thinking about him with her

1

11

11

Depression

View all
Top reply
    • KhronicKoder

      454d

      When I'm being (what I feel is) "too much", you know what my wife does? She has a conversation with me to check in, and then makes sure I'm comfortable and eating/drinking right. She doesn't go and sleep with another woman. This is not your fault, don't blame yourself. Remember to take care of yourself during this time šŸ’•šŸ«‚

      4

      Reply
      Chat
    • Nal

      452d

      I know exactly how u feel my boyfriend cheated on me nd it was probably 3 or 4 months ago now nd I still think about it, nd it makes me really sad nd angry nd hurt,, def not ur fault tho I thought that too that it was maybe my fault, but it is absolutely not, it is his fault completely that was choice he made,,, also if he says it was an accident heā€™s lying cheating is never an accident it is a choice u make

      0

      Reply
    • AnimalBoy

      454d

      It's not your fault. Cheating is a choice and there are MANY other options he could have tried ranging from communication to couples therapy to a break up, even if temporary. He never HAD to be unfaithful he CHOSE to be, and it might be hard to move past that if you don't unpack and deal with the reality of that especially if he is also blaming you because him refusing to take responsibility is a sign that it will happen again if your relationship remains or becomes something he views as difficult again because he feels he has valid excuses to bend into the easiest "solution" to his emotional problems which conviently fits what he wants to do with no regard for you, and not what needs to be done to actually solve the root of the problems in your relationship.

      1

      Reply
      • Jaelin

        454d

        @AnimalBoy thank you again for the support. I really needed to hear this and i feel like I can finally get out of this now that I have people confirming I'm not crazy for feelings this way

        2

        Reply
    • KhronicKoder

      454d

      When I'm being (what I feel is) "too much", you know what my wife does? She has a conversation with me to check in, and then makes sure I'm comfortable and eating/drinking right. She doesn't go and sleep with another woman. This is not your fault, don't blame yourself. Remember to take care of yourself during this time šŸ’•šŸ«‚

      4

      Reply
      • AnimalBoy

        453d

        @KhronicKoder it's so important to add healthy examples in situations like this and you're so right! When I'm being "too much" and having a hard time my partner helps me make sure im still eating/drinking/sleeping properly as well and he puts on my comfort movies! He also offers to take baths with me and/or wash me when he can because he knows how much my motivation to shower is effected by depression/stress and how much being clean and relaxing in a bath can help. In more severe cases of bad mental health issues we also help each other look into therapies and support groups that could be helpful for our particular situation and in any situation, but especially the bad ones, we communicate with each other how we're feeling and try to brainstorm what can help. Even when we can't find solutions we're still at least working as a team!

        1

        Reply
        • KhronicKoder

          452d

          @AnimalBoy this exactly! A relationship is a team. And a healthy relationship has good communication and understanding. It takes effort from both sides. I'm upset that OP is blaming themselves at a time when they deserve love and support.

          1

          Reply
      • Jaelin

        454d

        @KhronicKoder thank you for this. With your example of how your wife helps you makes me want a partner like that. I really needed to hear this thank you

        2

        Reply
    • LaurElizabeth

      454d

      Never will be your fault! I donā€™t blame you for having those thoughts either I can imagine how painful that is. But please you didnā€™t cause this at all. He is responsible for his own actions.

      1

      Reply
    • Juno_J

      454d

      Also also, you will never be 'too much'.

      0

      Reply
      • Jaelin

        454d

        @Juno_J thank you for this I needed to hear it

        1

        Reply
    • Juno_J

      454d

      This couldn't be your fault. You weren't unfaithful and I think your worry about them together is valid. Maybe some alone time would allow you to process you best course of action. Or writing a letter/ranting to someone.

      1

      Reply

ā˜ This content is generated by our users and it is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Please consult with your physician before making any medical decision

Thank you! Your submission has been received!
Oops! Something went wrong while submitting the form.

Want to chat or share? Download the Alike app now and get complete access to Alike.health's unique features.

Alike health

Instantly get answers to medical questions with our AI, built from the collective wisdom of our community facing similar experiences

Write your question here...

Get answer
Thank you! Your submission has been received!

Related Questions

Find people who are
experiencing a similar
medical reality

join the community
100% Free
100%
Free
Alike is a transformative platform that goes beyond just bringing together patients; it meticulously connects individuals based on multiple critical factors, such as age, gender, comorbidities, medications, diet, and more, fostering a community of knowledge, support and empathy.
Ā© 2020-2023 Alike, Inc
About AlikeWisdomFAQEditorial TeamAll ConditionsAll PostsAll Communities
Your PrivacyStoriesCommunity GuidelinesTerms of UsePrivacy PolicyBlogContact Us

Download Alike for the full experience

JOIN

View All

Bupropion

night sweats

paranoid

Valium

sertraline

palpitations

Anxiety (Including GAD)

Depression

palpitations

Depression

Valium

Bupropion